His Girlfriend Is Jealous Of His Girl Best Friend, And It’s Ruining Both His Romantic Relationship And His Friendship
This 32-year-old guy has been dating his 31-year-old girlfriend, Sophia, for about two years. They do not yet live together, but he reportedly fell for his girlfriend because she is extremely kind, smart, sweet, and cute.
“She is probably the best thing that’s ever happened to me,” he said.
But one of his closest friends happens to be a woman named Emma. Now, he claimed that he and Emma were never very close in the past.
However, they used to share a social circle in their same small hometown. Then, they both moved to New York City about three years ago and have been close ever since then– which was around the same time he met Sophia.
In the beginning, Sophia was fine with his friendship with Emma, too. Yet, things took a turn for the worse about eight months ago when he went and saw a movie with Emma that he promised to go see with his girlfriend.
He realizes that was a major mess up on his part and accepts his role in that situation.
Things then took an even further nosedive after he invited Emma to join a date night with him and Sophia. He admitted that he really didn’t think it would be a problem. Regardless, his girlfriend was not happy.
“We’ve had long talks about how I’m not prioritizing Emma over her,” he revealed.
“Emma is conventionally attractive and gets a lot of attention from guys. But none of that attention has ever been from me. She has even dated some of my buddies from back home.”
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Nonetheless, Sophia has a lot of insecurities relating to Emma. Primarily, she believes that Emma is attractive in a certain way that she isn’t– which he disagrees with.
Plus, his girlfriend thinks that Sophia posts a bunch of steamy photos online, which he does admit is true.
Just a few weeks ago, he and Sophia were also on her laptop, and he realized that one of his girlfriend’s most recent searches on Facebook had been Emma.
Sophia was immediately embarrassed and ultimately came clean about checking to see if he had liked any of his friend’s photos.
Sophia is also insecure about how, in the past, there have been times when he prioritized Emma over her.
And while he claims that these instances were all innocent oversights, he accepts that, to his girlfriend, it came across differently.
On top of that, his girlfriend doesn’t feel great about the fact that he has more in common with Emma.
For instance, Sophia gets particularly upset when he plays video games with Emma while they are spending time together.
“I’ve been working on this, but Emma is a big gamer, and that’s one of the reasons we connect,” he reasoned.
“Emma is like one of the boys to me, so we have a lot in common.”
Finally, Sophia is a bit put off because Emma also happens to have many of the traits that he loves about his own girlfriend. That’s why Sophia has actually asked him what’s stopping him from liking Emma if he likes the same things in her.
But he thinks that’s unfair and believes that his girlfriend and Emma are genuinely different people.
Still, Sophia claims that whenever he isn’t around, Emma acts coldly toward her.
So, while his girlfriend has never directly asked him to change his friendship with Emma or cut her off completely, Sophia wants him to treat her like she is number one.
He has also told his girlfriend to seek out therapy to deal with the insecurities. However, he has noticed that recently, Sophia’s jealousy has appeared to turn into just sadness.
“When I hang out with Emma and then hang out with Sophia, she doesn’t say she’s sad, but she clearly is,” he explained.
“I can see it in her eyes, and she pulls away from me more. I’m scared that soon, she’ll end things because she’s so sad over my friendship with Emma.”
At the same time, he thinks Emma has noticed that there is more distance in their friendship now.
So, he has been left trying to figure out how to reassure his girlfriend that he loves her to save their relationship without sacrificing his friendship with Emma.
Does it sound like Sophia has a right to be upset after he prioritized Emma over her and admitted it? Can you believe he suggested his girlfriend get therapy instead of addressing his role in the situation? If he is genuinely serious about his relationship, does he need to re-evaluate his friendship with Emma?
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