She’s Obsessed With The Girl Her Husband Had An Emotional Affair With, And This Girl Wrecked Someone Else’s Relationship Just A Year Earlier
This 43-year-old woman is married to her 41-year-old husband, and sadly, her husband recently confessed to her that he had an emotional affair.
Her husband promised that things never got physical between him and this 29-year-old girl, who happens to be one of his former coworkers, but he hasn’t been super forthcoming about the details.
Her husband has since deleted the messages that proved his emotional affair. She does know that her husband and this girl went on a business trip out of town for a whole day and he got back later that night, but she doesn’t know what happened on the trip.
“Lies persisted for months, but my husband says he was just afraid of my reaction and that he was trying to minimize the damage as nothing physical ever transpired,” she explained.
“It took about 2 months of basically stalking cellphones/emails/locations to pull this truth out of him. My issue is that I am so angry that this even happened that I want to get this woman to talk.”
“I want to tell her all the awful things he’s said and done to both of us. I know it’s not her fault…he’s married to me, not her…but she knew we were married and had wrecked another coworker’s home a year prior…but I just don’t trust it.”
She does suspect that her husband could be lying about the severity of what happened, and she says she has “tortured” him in an effort to get all of the information, but she still has doubts.
She was trying to reconcile with her husband, but something keeps telling her that there’s more than what he’s sharing.
She also thinks she’s prettier than the girl her husband had an affair with, and she knows she’s a wonderful wife, so she can’t figure out why he would step out on her.
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Also, she sadly lost 2 members of her family within weeks of her husband’s affair, and at the time, he wasn’t really being there for her.
She figured it was because he was trying to give her some space to grieve, but then she learned that it was because he was getting attention from this other girl.
She has always been on friendly terms with this other girl, so when she found out about the affair, she asked this girl to show her the texts between her and her husband.
She thought seeing the messages her husband deleted would help her move past everything, and actually, this girl was very kind to her and forked the messages right over.
But then, when she got the following phone bill, it became clear to her that this girl was lying to her too and had deleted tons of messages in the screenshots she provided to her.
“I actually called her out on it and she got kind of petty and irritated with me telling me not to mix her up in my marriage issues,” she said.
“I’m really not looking to blame her so much as see if she would be inclined to give me the info I don’t already have… like if she knew he tried to get her fired, messed with her money, and fully jeopardized her lifestyle, maybe she wouldn’t be so keen on keeping his secrets?”
She can’t understand why this girl is lying to cover up for her husband. She has since filed to separate from her husband, but she’s not ready to go through with a divorce.
She has also gotten herself into therapy in an effort to help her deal with her husband’s infidelity.
She just cannot stop obsessing over this other girl though. That’s the one thing she cannot simply let go of.
“I have proof he’s a liar,” she continued. “I don’t have proof otherwise. But not knowing what they hid beyond a car ride and some messages is driving me crazy. At this point, he had his chance to come clean. If I had proof, I would LEAVE permanently.”
What advice do you have for her?
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