His Girlfriend Broke Up With Him Because He Wasn’t “The One,” But He Really Loves Her And Isn’t Sure If He Should Fight For Their Relationship
This 22-year-old guy had been dating his girlfriend, who is also 22, for about 11 months. And even though they were not in a relationship for that long, he truly thought that she was the one.
“That might sound dumb since I’m 22 and it was only 11 months, but the love I had for her was so warm, genuine, and unlike anything I’ve ever felt,” he said.
“We’ve had our ups and downs just like any relationship, but overall, I thought things were going great.”
However, he recently found out that his girlfriend didn’t feel the same way after she dumped him– claiming that he wasn’t really the one for her.
Just one week before their split, he had spent the weekend at his girlfriend’s place, too, because her family was visiting from far away to celebrate a birthday.
So, he spent the entire weekend bonding with her family, and he really thought everything was going wonderfully. He got along great with everyone and played games with the little kids.
Yet, after he left his girlfriend’s place that Sunday and Facetimed her, he found out she was having doubts about their relationship.
Apparently, his girlfriend admitted to considering breaking up with him, and when he asked her why, she claimed to just have “a gut feeling.”
“That really hurt because there’s nothing I can really do to fix that, so I tried to just talk her down and convince her that everything was okay,” he recalled.
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“And we tried to go back to normal, but after a week, she broke up with me. It really hurts because the last time I physically saw her, I thought everything was okay.”
In hindsight, he also thinks their split was tied to one of his girlfriend’s less-favorable characteristics.
According to him, she had a tendency to hyper-fixate on things. For instance, whenever they would have a disagreement or misunderstanding, his girlfriend would get hurt. But they would always talk it out and try to understand how the other person felt.
Yet, even after situations were resolved, his girlfriend would often tell him that she still had a looming “weird feeling.” So, he believes that his girlfriend honestly just dwelled on things that just continued to hurt her– which was not conducive.
Anyway, in addition to claiming he wasn’t the one, his girlfriend also accused him of hurting her too much and said that’s also why she wanted to break up.
In the beginning, he took the blame for that, too, and tried to apologize. However, after thinking over things more, he’s come to feel confident that he was a good boyfriend.
He admits that, yes, he did sometimes say stupid things that made his girlfriend upset. However, he always made an effort to make amends and grow as a person after realizing he had hurt her.
“But I think she dwelled on those feelings, which only hurt more, and then just kind of put the blame on me because she wasn’t aware of what she was doing,” he explained.
“I could be totally wrong, but this is what it feels like, in all honesty.”
So, while he knows this was the first serious relationship they’d both ever been in, and he realizes they both messed up a lot, he’s not sure whether he should continue fighting for the relationship.
He realizes that relationships can just lose their spark as time passes by, but he still really loves his girlfriend and has been left feeling really confused and hurt.
“I don’t know if I should just move on or try and fight,” he vented.
“And fighting might just mean giving her space; who knows.”
So now, he’s been left wondering what to do ever since losing his girlfriend.
Is it worth it to fight someone who was honest about not wanting to be with you? Do you think he should just focus on himself right now and try to move on? What would you do if you were in his shoes?
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