She Wants To End Her Engagement Because Her Fiancé Plans To Spend Christmas With His Ex-Wife And Daughter

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Five years ago, this 29-year-old woman met her fiancé, 35.

Her fiancé has a daughter with his ex-wife, 40, and he and his ex share custody.

“I always admired his friendship with his ex and how they’re raising their daughter amicably,” she said.

Before their first Christmas as a couple, her fiancé told her that he was planning to spend the holiday with his ex-wife and his daughter, who was just a baby at the time. He ended up staying with them from Christmas Eve through December 26th.

Back then, she didn’t care too much that her fiancé wasn’t with her for Christmas because they’d only been dating for a few months. She almost always flies to her parents’ house to celebrate the holidays so she doesn’t have to worry about spending Christmas alone.

Each Christmas since then, her fiancé has spent the holiday with his ex-wife and daughter, and she still felt okay with this arrangement.

In February, her fiancé proposed.

“Yesterday, he asked me if I was going to buy my flight to my parents’ early so I didn’t need to pay three to four times the cost if I bought it around Christmas. I was surprised. I told him that I thought that we could do Christmas together this year. He said, ‘What? We (his ex and he) always celebrate Christmas together for the daughter’s sake,'” she explained.

At this, she responded by pointing out that now that they’re engaged, she wants to start celebrating Christmas together as a couple, and she didn’t think it was acceptable anymore for him to be spending every single Christmas with his ex and daughter.

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Then, she asked him why he and his ex don’t switch off with who gets to celebrate Christmas with their daughter each year, which, she pointed out, a lot of other divorced parents do.

He explained that they wanted to keep their daughter’s routine as stable as they could. While they talked, her fiancé made it clear that he thought she was “being so selfish.”

Later, her fiancé texted his ex-wife about the Christmas situation.

“He told her basically that he was planning to include me in this Christmas. Her answer was long and harsh, saying that I wasn’t really family yet and that she wasn’t comfortable with a stranger in her house. Then she accused him of being weak and prioritizing a woman over his daughter, who’s at a sensitive age now,” she continued.

Her fiancé asked her if they could wait until next year’s Christmas to celebrate together because by then, they’re planning to be married, and this way, his fiancé would no longer have an excuse to continue excluding her.

After all of this, she wondered what the logistics of their relationship would look like when he hadn’t even spent a Christmas with her yet in the entirety of their relationship.

While she loves his daughter, she doesn’t know if a marriage with her fiancé would work, and she’s considering breaking up with him. She’s also wondering if she should stick it out for one more year to see if the situation improves.

What would you do if you were in her shoes?

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