She Told Her Mother-In-Law To Get A New Dress Just Two Weeks Before Her Wedding Because The Gown Her Mother-In-Law Picked Out Didn’t Fit The Black Tie Dress Code And Was Not Age Appropriate
In several weeks, this 29-year-old woman is getting married to her fiancé, 30.
Their engagement has been relatively short, and unfortunately, she and her fiancé have dealt with tons of issues from his side of the family.
His parents haven’t financially contributed or even offered to help with any of the planning of the events or the wedding at all.
“They’ve made constant demands, critiqued me, and tried to ambush him at times to break things off with me because we requested an adults-only wedding,” she said.
Due to all of this constant negativity, the wedding planning process has been horrific.
Their wedding is going to be a black-tie dress code, and four months ago, she showed her mother-in-law the dress that her mother was going to wear.
On their wedding website, the invitations, and in numerous discussions with her mother-in-law, it was made clear that the dress code was formal.
Over the course of several days, her fiancé asked his mother what dress she was going to wear, and she purposely didn’t show him what the dress looked like.
“Then, eventually, she did. The dress is not black-tie, appropriate for a wedding, appropriate for evening, or age-appropriate,” she explained.
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Her fiancé felt the same way she did about the dress, and he was the one who initially pointed out that the dress wasn’t appropriate for his mother’s age. She acknowledged that she has no issue with her mother-in-law wanting to find a dress that she feels beautiful in, and she wants her mother-in-law to feel beautiful. The issue is with the dress not fitting their dress code specifications. Her mother-in-law’s dress isn’t appropriate in any way.
She and her fiancé let her know that this dress wasn’t going to be a good option for their wedding according to their dress code.
In response, her mother-in-law said that the entire family doesn’t agree and that they all adore the dress. She continued, calling her a jerk for asking her to find a different dress to wear.
Sadly, her fiancé’s whole family doesn’t seem to like her, and she believes that they despise her. In her view, the rest of the family is just egging on her mother-in-law to cause more issues leading up to the wedding.
To try to smooth things over, her fiancé told his mother that he could pay for the original dress she purchased, and he said that he’d pay for the new dress that would work for their dress code. Plus, she could still wear the original dress she bought for their rehearsal dinner.
However, her mother-in-law doubled down and doesn’t want to wear a different dress, even though they’ve expressed to her that the dress she chose doesn’t work.
“The dress is blue. It has stripes in the polyester fabric, and it’s going to stick out like crazy next to all the formal gowns and tuxedos that everyone else included in our ceremony is wearing,” she shared.
The reason she and her fiancé had been inquiring about her mother-in-law’s dress in the first place is because she has been known not to dress appropriately for special events. They don’t feel concerned about what most of their other wedding guests will be wearing, and most certainly not to the point where they feel the need to reach out and ask about their choices for what they will wear.
For her bridal shower, her mother-in-law chose to wear a black wife beater tank top. On the other hand, she wore an appropriate outfit for a family member’s baby shower (whom she wasn’t close with) later that month, so this made it evident that she was capable of dressing up when she felt like it. Also, her mother-in-law wore white-tie mother-of-the-bride dresses for both of her daughters’ weddings.
As part of their culture, her mother-in-law will be walking her fiancé down the aisle for their wedding ceremony, so she will have a lot of attention on her.
She clarified that she didn’t at all believe that her fiancé’s family should have felt obligated to contribute financially to their wedding. But she thought that it was incredibly unfair for her mother-in-law to act so entitled and repeatedly throw fits when they made decisions throughout the planning process that she didn’t agree with.
Throughout her relationship with her fiancé, her mother-in-law has often disrespected her, so she has almost no contact with her now. Once she and her fiancé are married, she doesn’t plan for that to change. She will remain civil but only see her mother-in-law a couple of times a year for big family get-togethers.
From her perspective, it’s outrageous that the only thing she and her fiancé have expected from her mother-in-law is to wear a dress that adheres to their dress code, and she won’t do that.
Through all of the drama, her fiancé has been the one talking with his mother and trying to reason with her.
Even though her fiancé wants to stay in contact with his mother, he wants to keep her at a bit of a distance and limit the amount of communication he has with her.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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