He Told His Brother To “Think Twice” Before Proposing To His Girlfriend Because He Thinks His Brother’s Girlfriend Comes With A Lot Of Baggage
This man’s younger brother is a wonderful person who has always believed in love and romance.
While his brother has struggled with dating in the past, he has been dating his girlfriend, April, 22, for two years.
He lives an hour away from April and his brother, but despite the distance, he’s had the chance to get to know April and be around her several times.
April attends all of their family get-togethers and celebrates the holidays with them.
“Overall, she seems to be a genuine person. She is polite, respectful, and sweet. She’s just a bit reserved. Our family is not like that at all, so some of us have been trying to get used to her quietness,” he said.
This past week, his brother told him and their parents that he would be proposing to April in several months.
In his opinion, April has a lot of “baggage” due to unfortunate experiences growing up.
Even though he doesn’t try to be nosey, his brother has discussed some of April’s past while he has been dating her over the last two years.
His brother didn’t mind sharing this information about April and was comfortable being honest about it. Also, April is fine with other people knowing these details about her life, but she hasn’t been super vulnerable with their family at this point.
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“Before anybody says anything, she is white. And so are we. She is the third generation in her family to grow up with a dad walking out. April’s mom didn’t know who her father was at first. Her mom was apparently mentally ill and abusive. And kicked her out when she was 18 with no bank account, car, or job,” he explained.
After April’s mother kicked her out, she went to live with her grandmother. Sadly, her grandmother had anger problems and would constantly yell and slam things around whenever she was feeling angry and couldn’t cope with it.
April’s mother lives in a beautiful home that was left to her when her aunt passed away. Her grandmother, on the other hand, is struggling to survive off of social security since she’s already retired and has been married three times.
“The list goes on, but I don’t want to be judgmental. Our family just worries that these behaviors have been ingrained,” he shared.
He’s proud of April for creating her own independent life away from her family and not letting her past hold her back.
April didn’t go to college, and she doesn’t have any family who supports her financially.
He learned that April’s mother didn’t provide her with basic necessities like deodorant or soap while she was a child.
Horrifically, April’s mother “‘treated her as less than a dog.'”
Now, April has no contact with her mother or grandmother, and she has been living alone for the past year.
After his brother told him and his parents about his plans to propose to April, he cautioned him that April may not have a grasp on what life is like in an environment different from the one she grew up in.
He continued, telling his brother to think things through before going forward with the proposal.
Once he said that he got the impression that his brother was angry with him.
However, he doesn’t understand why because, from his perspective, he was just telling him the truth.
Do you think he should have cautioned his brother against proposing to April?
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