Her Boyfriend Is Stingy About Everything, And It’s Negatively Impacting Their Relationship
This 32-year-old woman has known her 34-year-old boyfriend for quite some time, but they have been dating for a little under three years so far.
She’s not going to lie and say that everything in their relationship is great except for a few things because things are hardly great overall.
However, the one thing that she thinks is really impacting their relationship in a negative way is the fact that her boyfriend is stingy.
“He ate half the Halloween candy, which he refused to buy in the first place because “why do we have to give them [neighborhood kids] anything?” He specifically picked out all the Snickers and Sour Patch Kids,” she explained.
“I had to go buy more and hide it until last night. I told him I expected him to pay half, and he said ok, but made me feel like I was being petty.”
“He drinks maybe 3-5 cans of my diet soda per week and never replaces it. Now I have to hide it, which is ridiculous. He’s fit but can’t control himself with stuff.”
She doesn’t call him out every single time, though, since she doesn’t want their relationship to be tit for tat.
But, she’s left being the one giving or doing more. This also happens when it comes to what they do around the house, and she cooks and cleans more as she’s the one who works from home.
A piece of her is happy to do more around the house, as she thinks it is fair since her boyfriend spends $200 more a month than her on the rent.
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Her boyfriend does make $30,000 more a year than she does, so that’s why he pays more money towards their rent, however, he does complain about this every single month.
They do split their utilities equally, but they pay separately for their groceries, even though he eats a ton of the food she buys.
“He also has a bigger room and bathroom (we have separate spaces because our sleep schedules differ, and it’s helpful to have our own spaces, with “sleepovers” haha),” she added.
“Last night, I wasn’t feeling well, and I asked if he could please pick me up a ginger ale. He said sure and charged me every cent for it (he introduced a chart for our kitchen wall where we keep track of monthly expenditures). Meanwhile, I hadn’t charged him for my soda or even the lunches I made him from my own groceries last week. I tried to talk about this with him, and he accused me of treating everything as “transactional” and that I’m selfish because he already pays more rent. I can afford the soda, I was just sad that he can’t even part with $2.50 as a nice gesture when I do all the time.”
Her boyfriend made her feel greedy and selfish, but she thinks that he’s the one in their relationship who is these things.
He treats everything like it has a price tag and like she thinks he’s a vending machine to her. He never does her favors and expects her to pay him back for literally everything.
She doesn’t believe she asks him for much, but she couldn’t ever imagine herself charging him for soda if he had a bellyache.
“How can we discuss financial expectations or transactional attitudes without seeming like either one of us is selfish?” she wondered.
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