He’s Not Attending Thanksgiving At His Sister’s House Since She Invites More And More People Every Year, And It’s Too Much
This 41-year-old man has two sisters named Isa, 45, and Gina, 39. As children, he and his sisters weren’t close with any of their extended family.
Even though they had a large family who all lived pretty close to each other, none of them got along very well.
“Neither of my parents talked to their siblings, and my mom really only talked to a few of her aunts/uncles and cousins. We’d spend Christmas Eve at my mom’s cousin’s house, but that ended sometime when I was 11/12,” he said.
Since they didn’t have the chance to celebrate holidays with a lot of family around them, his older sister, Isa, dreamed of huge family get-togethers and having a big family in her future.
He, on the other hand, had the exact opposite wishes for his life when he grew up.
Now, he has three children, and his ideal way to spend the holidays would be a family gathering with his family, Gina’s family, Isa’s family, and their parents. For many years, he envisioned this as how holidays would look.
When Isa was 27-years-old, she got married, and now she has four children. She’s also taking care of two of her husband’s nieces and nephews. Since Isa got married, she has been hosting Thanksgiving dinner at her house.
“Every year since then, it’s gotten BIGGER and BIGGER. Everyone is invited. Cousins, in-laws, family friends, her children’s friends. She cooks a HUGE MEAL, and the house is always packed. To her, she’s achieved the dream, but it’s honestly such a big gathering I don’t feel like even going anymore,” he explained.
This year, his wife’s parents invited him and his family to come to their house for Thanksgiving dinner. His wife has only one sister, and her sister is childless.
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Before they got married, he and his wife used to go to her parent’s house for Thanksgiving, but since it’s been so long, he thought it could be a nice change of pace.
He acknowledged he wouldn’t have any issues with a quieter and more relaxed Thanksgiving this time around.
Each year, Isa offers space for guests to stay, so his children most often share a room with Isa’s children.
“They enjoy seeing their cousins, but I’m sure Isa’s kids wouldn’t mind getting to keep their rooms for once. I called Isa and told her we’d be going to my in-laws’ house, and she opposed the idea immediately. She said she’d be more than happy to make extra food and provide room for them if needed,” he shared.
In response, he assured Isa that he wouldn’t want to ask his in-laws to travel that far, and then Isa told him that her husband could go pick up his in-laws instead.
His in-laws know Isa’s husband, so it wouldn’t be as if someone they didn’t know was going to pick them up for Thanksgiving dinner.
Isa didn’t drop the subject and accept that he had other plans, so he eventually admitted that he didn’t want to go to her house for dinner and that he would rather get together with his in-laws for the day.
She was hurt by this and called him a jerk. Not long after, she hung up the phone on him. Later, Isa called him to say sorry for calling him a jerk.
She expressed that this opened her eyes to the fact that not everyone enjoyed spending the holiday with that many people, and she acknowledged that that could be overwhelming for some people.
The conversation ended when she said she hoped he had a wonderful Thanksgiving with his in-laws.
Do you think it was the right decision for him to go to his in-laws’ house for Thanksgiving?
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