She’s A Young Mother And Wants To Leave With Her Infant Daughter Because Her Boyfriend Doesn’t Help Her Whatsoever And She Can’t Take It Anymore
This woman and her boyfriend are young parents to a 9-month-old daughter.
While her boyfriend works full-time hours, she is a stay-at-home mother.
At two months pregnant, she had to resign from her job because she would faint if she stood up even for short spans of time.
Despite her doctors claiming this was “normal,” it turned out that she had severe anemia.
Now, she has been staying home for a year and a half.
This past July, she and her boyfriend moved in with two of her boyfriend’s friends in order to save some money on rent.
She is the only one who cleans the house, and everyone yells at her if the house is messy.
Her boyfriend doesn’t even help with any of the housework.
Whenever she asks her boyfriend and their roommates to pitch in, none of them pay any attention to her.
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The grass in the front lawn of the house they’re renting needs to be mowed.
When they moved in, their landlord told them that they were responsible for snow removal and mowing the lawn.
“They have been ignoring me for months about it, no matter how much I bring it up,” she said.
Because her boyfriend works so much and has a half-hour commute to work one way, he isn’t at the house too much.
Each morning, she wakes up with her daughter at about 6:30 a.m.
After that, she hangs out with her daughter’s room until her boyfriend wakes up to get ready for work. Usually, he gets out of bed at about 10 a.m. or 11 a.m., but sometimes he sleeps in until noon.
Her boyfriend leaves for work, and he comes home at about 8:30 p.m. or 9 p.m.
“We watch a show for about an hour, I go to sleep, and he stays up until 2 a.m. or 3 a.m. to ‘help me.’ He really stays up to play video games and watch YouTube, but he says he’s staying up so if the baby wakes up, I won’t have to get up with her and have some uninterrupted sleep,” she explained.
When her boyfriend has days off from work, he doesn’t do anything different.
While her boyfriend does take care of their daughter more on his days off, he only does so if she requests him to.
Also, he asks her silly questions and for help with the tasks that he should be able to figure out on his own, like changing diapers, changing the diaper genie, or doing housework.
Plus, he purposely leaves the unpleasant chores for her to do, even when he has the time to do them.
“If I don’t go over to help him, he gets mad at me. I made him bathe our baby for the first time ever a week ago, and he left the entire mess in the bathroom because he ‘didn’t know how to put it away.’ He’s called me over to ask me to check if his pasta was cooked,” she shared.
Past 2 a.m. or 3 a.m., once her boyfriend has gone to bed, they both take turns checking on their daughter when she wakes up through the rest of the night.
But when it’s her boyfriend’s turn to check on the baby, he gives their daughter a pacifier when she is hungry.
Whenever this happens, their baby is silent for a couple of minutes before crying again.
Because of this, she is the one who has to make a bottle, and her boyfriend has continued to do this despite her explaining to him multiple times that he needs to feed her.
Understandably, this situation has been difficult for her to cope with as a new mother. She is deeply unhappy.
She is also struggling with postpartum depression/anxiety/rage.
The repetitive cycle of no one listening to her and having to do everything herself because of the weaponized incompetence of her boyfriend is exhausting.
Now, she would rather move out of the house she and her boyfriend are living in so that she can start a new life as a single mother.
Her boyfriend has depression as well, but his mental health has become his excuse for why he doesn’t help her with anything and why he’s always so unmotivated.
She doesn’t know what her plan is moving forward, but she knows that she’s furious and that she has been furious for quite a while.
In order to make the most responsible choice for her daughter, she thinks the next step should be to move out with their baby.
What advice would you give her?
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