He’s In Love With The Mother Of His Child, But He’s Not Sure If He Should Tell Her And Risk Everything
Eight years ago, this 28-year-old guy met a 27-year-old woman named Tina through mutual friends, and back then, they both were in college.
He asked Tina out on a date, and it went wonderfully. They ended up sharing a kiss at the end of their first date.
Several days after that, they wound up at a party together, and they hooked up. He really liked Tina, and they were supposed to hang out a week later, but then they had to cancel their plans.
He had to complete his final exams for the semester, and then the holidays arrived, and he never got a chance to go out with Tina again.
A couple of weeks later, Tina called him in a panic to say that she was pregnant, and they both proceeded to freak out.
After some consideration, Tina said she wanted to keep their baby, so he told Tina he would stick with her and learn to be a dad.
Tina’s pregnancy was tough on both of them, especially given how young they were and the fact that they did not know one another at all.
But, they managed to do a great job parenting their little girl, though they never ended up in a relationship.
Tina gave birth to their little girl Lisa, and Tina managed to excel as a mom while completing college.
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“Since the beginning, Tina and I [have acted] as a team and supported each other. I trust her with all my life,” he explained.
“Flash forward, our Lisa is 7 now. She lives with me every other week, but I see her and Tina almost every day because we live in the same neighborhood, we often eat dinner together at my house or at Tina’s, we have a really good co-parent relationship, and Lisa is a happy kid and our main priority.”
Sadly, Tina and Lisa suffered some water damage in their home recently, so they came to stay with him while everything got sorted out.
Last Friday, Tina and Lisa went home, and Lisa actually cried about not being able to have them all together.
“It was wonderful, those days were probably the best of my life, we had so much fun,” he said.
“Getting Lisa from school, then all three of us cooking together, playing silly games. A few times, we even slept all the three of us in my bed after reading stories. I loved every moment.”
“Since they left, my home feels so empty, those days were marvelous, Waking up every morning with Tina by my side, prepping breakfast, and then waking up our daughter…we were like a normal family.”
He teared up as he thought back to the wonderful memories they shared while Tina and Lisa stayed with him.
He has caught himself daydreaming throughout the years about how things could have been if he had been in a relationship with Tina.
And all of this has led him to the conclusion that he is crazy in love with Tina. He thinks about her nonstop, and not just because she’s an incredible mom; Tina is also a phenomenal woman.
Yesterday, Tina invited him out to lunch as a thank-you for allowing her and Lisa to stay with them while their home got fixed.
Tina mentioned that she had a great time staying with him, and they discussed going on vacation together too.
“I was looking at her and…I wanted to kiss her so badly,” he continued. “I confided my feelings to my best friend, and he told me to be careful because I could be hurt, and it could harm our co-parent relationship and so harm Lisa.”
“I know he is right but on the other side, the feelings are here, and I don’t know if I should try to restrain them or express them. Relevant info: on the dating scene, since Lisa’s birth, I only had one serious relationship, which lasted 1 year, a few years ago until she cheated on me. She also said that we couldn’t work because the real love of my life is Tina. At the time, I thought she was just justifying her cheating, but recently, her words took a new light.”
“Tina had 2 relationships that lasted a few months, she told me that she didn’t feel like she could build something with them in the long term.”
Do you think he should tell Tina how he feels about her?
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