She Spent About $1,000 While Planning Her Friend’s Bachelorette Party, But She Cancelled The Celebration Arrangements After She Was Randomly Kicked Out Of The Bridal Party And Got Accused Of Ruining Her Friend’s Wedding
I’ve always empathized with women who spend a whole bunch of money to be their friend or relative’s bridesmaid, only to be treated like garbage throughout the wedding planning process.
One young woman recently spent around $1,000 on her friend’s wedding as a bridesmaid and was left to set up her bachelorette party. However, she canceled the arrangements after being kicked out of her friend’s bridal party for petty reasons.
She’s a full-time student living off student loans and has spent a lot of money on her friend’s upcoming wedding, as she’s one of her bridesmaids. She’s spent hundreds of dollars on the bridesmaid dress, her friend’s wedding gift, flights to the wedding location, etc.
Although she’s just a bridesmaid, she recently had to spend more money and take on more responsibilities after the maid of honor, who is very pregnant, asked her to make arrangements for a surprise bachelorette party.
After consulting with the other bridesmaids, she planned the perfect party for her friend and paid for the arrangements out of pocket on top of the thousand dollars she had already spent.
“I spent $400 on a limo to go bar hopping [because] the bride loves bar hopping, and I booked us a $700 AirBnB to crash in afterward,” she explained.
“As of right now, the other bridesmaids did not chip in. This was out of pocket, but they said they would pay me back later.”
Then, about a month after she planned the bachelorette party, the bride unexpectedly took her and two other girls out of their bridesmaid group chat. She texted them each a long paragraph explaining that they were kicked out of the bridal party for “not respecting her wishes,” but then didn’t go on to elaborate.
Two days later, the bride added her and the other girls back into the bridal party and apologized, saying she was stressed out and didn’t mean to kick them out.
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But then, the bride did the same thing the other day, yet she was the only one who was taken out of the bridal party. When she tried asking the bride what was wrong, she didn’t get an answer for days. Finally, the bride reached out and apologized, telling her she didn’t want her to be her bridesmaid anymore but that she could still go to the wedding as a guest.
Then, the bride told her she wasn’t allowed to wear the bridesmaid dress she bought.
“I told her I respectfully declined, as I couldn’t afford another dress as I’ve already spent too much on this wedding and that I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable on her big day,” she recalled.
“She then lashed out, telling me I should just take more [money] from my student loans to buy a second dress. So, with that, I went and canceled the Airbnb and the limo. I told the other bridesmaids what had happened, and they agreed it was fair.”
After canceling the bachelorette party arrangements, the bride eventually found out about it and messaged her, telling her she ruined her wedding. She said she didn’t have enough time or money to set up a new bachelorette party and officially uninvited her to the wedding.
Thankfully, she got a refund on her flights, but she still lost around $450 from all the wedding chaos.
Should she feel bad for canceling the bachelorette party to get her money back, or should the bride reimburse her further?
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