She Told Her Boyfriend That She Loved Him, And Then He Dumped Her
Two months ago, this 22-year-old woman started dating her 25-year-old boyfriend. On their very first date, she was hardly impressed with him, but she still said yes to giving him another try.
She actually changed her mind after going out with several different guys, and she realized he was really the best of all of them.
On her second date with her boyfriend, she thought they had a good thing going, and she was excited.
In the month after that, their dates got increasingly better, and she finally asked him if he would be interested in being exclusive.
He was thrilled to say yes and asked if he could actually be her boyfriend. She was so happy about this, and she started telling her family members and friends that she was seeing him.
However, things began to fall apart right after that conversation, and her boyfriend began pulling back. He also stopped planning dates for them to go on, and he stopped reaching out to her too.
He then made a strange joke about wanting to add another woman to their relationship, which only made her more concerned.
While she did consider talking to him about how upset she was with how things were going, she decided to wait and see how everything would pan out as she took a step back herself.
“Then, on Thanksgiving day, he said he was thankful to have me in his life and that I was the most beautiful and perfect girlfriend he could have hoped for,” she explained.
Nomad_Soul – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“My concerns melted away. I slept over at his house that night, and when we woke up we spent the morning saying sweet nothings to each other and talking about our lives. We [hooked up], and a little afterward, in my daze, I said something like, “You’re so sweet I love you.” I froze, knowing what I had just done.”
“He held me for a while and gave me a kiss. He said, “I know this is awkward, but I’m not ready to say that yet, I’ll see you soon, though,” and I left and spent the whole day trying to figure out what to do.”
She ultimately settled on saying and doing nothing. That Saturday, he sent her a text asking if it would be alright for him to stop by her place so they could chat, which she agreed to. While he was at her house, he mentioned that he didn’t feel right saying he loved her yet.
She replied that she realized she had said it way too early and that she did not expect him to say it back.
He followed up by questioning her about if she actually meant what she said, and she admitted that she did.
For her, saying she loves someone means that she deeply cares about them and respects them, and that’s really what she meant at the moment.
She had also made a rule with herself to wait three months into a relationship before saying she loved him, yet she broke her own rule.
But anyway, back to their conversation, which took a turn for the worse. Her boyfriend revealed to her that he didn’t see their relationship heading in the right direction and asked if she would like a hug before leaving her house.
“I was speechless and denied his hug because I was about to cry,” she said. “I texted him after he left, asking why he was willing to throw everything away when just a couple days ago, things were going seemingly well.”
“I felt kind of blindsided. But also feel like I should have known better when he was pulling away earlier this month. It’s all so confusing.”
“Sunday night, I texted him saying I had a few questions and asked if he’d be willing to talk. He said definitely, and we were going to talk on Monday.”
When Monday morning rolled around, he told her he had a cold and that it could take him a few more days to feel up to chatting, but he was still open to it.
She said it wasn’t a problem, but a whole week has gone by without hearing anything from him at all.
Her friends insist he’s terrible, and she needs to forget him, but it’s not that easy for her to do. She’s felt awful as she’s considered texting him, but she keeps talking herself out of following through.
She also is trying to figure out why he dumped her, because she thinks there’s more to it than her simply saying she loves him.
“It’s just a shame [because] I was really hoping we could be in each other’s lives somehow,” she continued.
“I really enjoyed spending time with him, and sleeping next to him, and meeting his friends. But maybe I was being delusional. I feel like in relationships, I’m either doing too much or not enough. Where did I go wrong? What should I do?”
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