Her Parents Spent $100,000 For Her Sister To Go To Private School, Forcing Her And The Rest Of Their Siblings To Take Out Expensive Loans, Which Ruined Their Futures
Unfortunately, parents sometimes have to spend and sacrifice more of their money for one child over the other.
While it’s not ideal in their eyes most of the time, children can still resent their parents or siblings because of it.
One young woman recently told her stepmother that she and her siblings resent their eldest stepsister because she had to receive more expensive schooling, which “ruined” their futures because they got stuck taking out student loans.
She grew up in a big blended family after her dad married her stepmom, who had children from a previous relationship.
She gets along with all of her siblings and stepsiblings, who see each other like blood relatives, except for one, her eldest stepsister, Liana.
By the time her parents married, Liana was almost 18-years-old. She was “independently homeschooled” as a child, so everyone assumed she was very smart.
However, around that time, she received some testing, and it was revealed that she had only learned enough up to a ninth-grade level and was not able to get transferable credits for her new school.
“Neither our school nor the public school were willing to place her above ninth grade,” she explained.
“Since she was only about a month from turning 18, this would mean she would be in high school until her 21st birthday and would likely have to drop out anyway. The only other option was to have her get a GED.”
Alina – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
After stressing for days about what to do with Liana’s education, her stressed parents got in touch with someone from a private school who offered to enroll Liana as a senior, keeping her on track with peers her age.
However, that private school came with a big price tag, and her parents spent $100,000 to enroll Liana, who eventually graduated and went off to college.
“My family is normal middle class, so paying that [tuition] meant that the rest of us had to take out massive student loans,” she said.
“My youngest siblings even had to switch to public school. My older brother got some help before this, but there wasn’t a dime for the rest of us. My parents justified it by saying that they had to [pay] it because it was their job to give all of their kids as close to an equal start to their lives as possible, and this was the only option to do that for her.”
As time passed and more student loans were taken out, she and her siblings began to resent Liana more and more for her private education costs. They began to feel as though the cost of her schooling “ruined” their futures.
One day, when her stepmom was upset, she began questioning why all the children resented Liana. She finally broke down and told her stepmom they resented Liana for the financial burden her schooling put on the family and that she never apologized or showed remorse.
Now, her father says her mom has been depressed since she told her those things, feeling like she’s the only one in the family who loves Liana. She’s left wondering if she and her siblings are wrong to feel so angry.
Should she be more compassionate toward her stepsister, or are her feelings valid?
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