He Ghosted His Friend After She Got A New Boyfriend Because He Has Feelings For Her, But Never Got A Chance To Confess
This 26-year-old guy has been good friends with a woman named Susan, who is 25, for about six years now. And as time went on, their friendship only became stronger.
However, over the past year, things started to change for him. He no longer looked at Susan as just a friend and instead started to develop feelings for her.
Now, he claimed that because of too many “outside situations,” he never had a chance to confess how he really felt. Instead, they just kept talking every day as friends, and he was fine with that.
More recently, though, Susan actually got a new boyfriend, and hearing about her new relationship really started to rub him the wrong way.
“I noticed I was getting very jealous anytime she would bring him up,” he recalled.
To be clear, he actually thinks that Susan’s new boyfriend is a great guy. He’s even met the guy, and they get along really well.
Additionally, he knows that Susan definitely doesn’t “owe him anything,” and he doesn’t expect her to feel the same way about him.
Regardless, seeing her with someone else just became too hard on him, which is why he decided that it would be best to cut contact with Susan for the time being.
“So I could get over my feelings,” he explained.
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He decided to do this around Thanksgiving, too, so he and Susan haven’t spoken since then. But, just about a week ago, one of their mutual friends finally broke the ice and talked to him about it.
According to his friend, Susan really misses him and wishes that he would reach out to her again.
“But I don’t know if or how I should,” he admitted.
Their mutual friend also knows the real reason why he ghosted Susan in the first place and accused him of being a jerk.
In his mind, though, he was just trying to protect his mental health. He also didn’t plan to end their friendship forever.
“I just need a break to work things out, and I feel like if I tell Susan why, then I would just put unfair pressure and stress on her. And I feel like if I lie about the reason, that is just as unfair,” he vented.
So now, he’s been at a loss about how to proceed, and he also can’t stop wondering if ghosting Susan in the first place was really the wrong thing to do.
Have you ever had feelings for a friend who started dating someone else? Can you understand why he wanted to distance himself to protect his mental health? Do you think he should reach out to Susan again or not?
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