Her Boyfriend Is Over $300,000 In Debt, So She’s Doubting Their Relationship

PhotoBook - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
PhotoBook - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

For two years, this 36-year-old woman has been dating her 46-year-old boyfriend, and he has never kept it from her that he’s in an enormous amount of debt.

He’s more than $300,000 in debt, to be exact, and he accumulated it all during the pandemic for his business.

Her boyfriend thought that if he just stuck it out and worked his hardest, he could make his business succeed.

Except, now her boyfriend is at a point where he’s not making enough of a profit to even help pay down all of his debt, and he’s in over his head.

“He is trying his best to scrimp and save and work a part-time job to save himself, but it’s not working out,” she explained.

“He has borrowed some money from me and is currently thinking of going to the money lenders to borrow more.”

“I’m extremely scared because money lenders’ payment interest is exorbitant, and he might get into more debt.”

She’s here in America on a work visa, as she’s from a different country, and her visa is ending somewhat soon.

So if she doesn’t marry her boyfriend and remain in America, she has to go home. She adores her boyfriend and he’s a wonderful man.

PhotoBook – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

She would like to marry him, but it’s weighing on her that he’s in so much debt, and that’s making her doubt if marriage is the right thing for her.

On top of the debt she knows about, she suspects her boyfriend borrowed additional money from his parents.

“Even with his current salary, I’m afraid that it will take him more than 20 years to finish returning the debt,” she said.

“I know that I’m not obliged to pay his debts if I marry him. But if we get married, he has to use his salary to pay his debts; it seems like I will be the one paying for everything else for the both of us, for example, groceries and bills.”

“I don’t want that. As selfish as it sounds, but really, I don’t want to live a life in debt. Sometimes I think I’d rather spend my life alone. I don’t know how to continue this relationship.”

What advice do you have for her?

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