Her Husband Dated His Female Coworker For A Month And Carried On An Affair With Her Too, And She Can’t Forgive Him
For 11 years so far, this 29-year-old woman has been with her 29-year-old husband, and 5 years ago they got married.
She truly believed their marriage was wonderful, and her husband is pretty much perfect. He’s also her best friend in the world.
She and her husband have never had any major disagreements in all the years they’ve been together, and they are always on the same page.
“He was always so responsible and caring,” she explained. “I could trust him 110% with anything.”
“I was never the jealous type, and he never gave me a reason to be. We bought our first house together about 2 years ago. It had been a really stressful year for the both of us, probably a little more for him than me.”
“Our house needed a ton of work, and I was just finishing up school and starting a new career. He had lost a couple of close family members, and he crashed his car. I also needed a couple of months of financial help from him due to school and only being casual when I started my new career.”
Her husband was working nonstop, and she hardly saw him. Their personal life declined, and they became more like roommates than a married couple.
Then one evening, she and her husband went on a double date with his female coworker and this woman’s husband.
They had a fun time, and they all got along great. She figured it was nice to have another couple to be friendly with.
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Right after that night, her husband grew apart from her and acted weird. She didn’t think he was cheating on her, as she has always been able to trust him.
She figured he had to be stressed, and this was a little bump in the road for them. But after a whole month of her husband behaving in this way, she knew things were not right.
Curiosity got the best of her, and she took it upon herself to snoop through her husband’s iPad one day, as it’s connected to his phone messages.
There, she came across tons of texts between her husband and his female coworker, who had been sending some really spicy things to one another.
Not only was her husband exchanging inappropriate messages with his female coworker, but he was also exchanging steamy photos with her too.
“I found out they had gone on multiple dates while I was at work,” she said. “They were pretty much dating for over a month, and I had no idea.”
“I confronted my husband immediately, and at first, he didn’t deny it but didn’t confess to everything and didn’t take ownership.”
“I was devastated and left the house for the day. I returned late in the night and we talked about everything. He swears they never slept together, just made out a couple of times. I read all of their texts, and it doesn’t seem like they did, but IDK if I believe him.”
Ever since she found out about her husband’s affair, has has been nothing but open with her, and he has been happy to answer all the questions she asked.
He is taking accountability for his actions, and he desperately wants to work on their marriage. It’s been 9 whole months since the cheating incident, and her husband has been trying his heart out to win her over.
They have gone to counseling together, and her husband is also going alone. Counseling does seem to be helping her husband, and he’s worked through understanding why he cheated on her in the first place.
“Honestly, him cheating was so out of character. At first, our close friends didn’t even believe me when I told them. It just wasn’t like him,” she continued.
“I have always loved him with all of my heart, but this just cuts really deep. It’s been months, and I feel like I still can’t move past this. It’s destroyed me. I want to forgive him and move on, but I honestly don’t know how. My confidence has taken a major hit, and I’m triggered by small things all the time. It hurts so much, but I never imagined my life without him.”
“I tried counseling just for myself, but that didn’t seem to help. How do people deal with infidelity in their relationships?”
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