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She’s more furious with her best friend here, since she seems to have gone out of her way to get to be close to her crush.
“Ultimately, I have a single atom inside my body that is happy for them and understands that they are actually a good match, BUT in no way do I want to be involved with either of them,” she said.
Some of her other friends have pointed out that she’s not being mature and she needs to be supportive.
She finally said to her best friend that she can have her crush, but they can’t both be a part of her life.
Her best friend has since gotten married to her crush, and that hurts even worse. Her crush was one of the few individuals on this planet who has been kind to her.
“I know I don’t “own” either of these people,” she said. “They can do whatever [they] want. But so can I. And I don’t want to be involved with them because it hurts a lot.”
“I know I will find someone else to date and a better best friend, but again, I feel like it’s gaslighting to tell someone to just “be mature” and be “happy for them.” Honestly good for them, but they need to leave me…alone and let me go down my own path that has nothing to do with either of them.”
“It actually really sucks because they moved pretty close to me, and I actually have run into this guy a few times. I hate it so much. I have been Googling this, and this seems to be a really debated topic, with a lot of people saying to just be mature and support them and other people saying that it’s a betrayal. I think the people who say to just support them dating have never felt so deeply about someone else because to have your best friend date is just beyond awful to me.”
What advice do you have for her?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
