She’s 26 And Already Has Three Kids With Her Ex-Husband, So She Told Her Boyfriend She’d Never Have Any Children With Him
Many people with children can likely recall when they realized they were ‘done’ and didn’t want to have any more.
A woman recently had to end things with her boyfriend of almost a year after telling him that she wouldn’t be willing to have a child with him because she already has three from a previous marriage.
She is 26-years-old and has three kids, ages six, five, and four. She got married when she was 19 to a 29-year-old man who turned out to be abusive.
After giving birth to her third child, she decided enough was enough and divorced him.
Because of everything she had been through, she realized she never had the chance to be young and enjoy life, so she started doing everything she could to make herself and her kids as happy as possible.
“Since then, I have been living pretty decently,” she said.
“My children and I live in a house in my dream city, and I have a wonderful job. I am so happy, happier than I have ever been.”
After leaving her first husband, she was able to reconnect with old friends and family members, including her dad, who has been an awesome grandfather to her kids.
About a year ago, she met a 28-year-old man named John. John has a great job, and when they decided to start dating, he didn’t mind that she was a mother, especially since he had a seven-year-old, which was a green flag for her.
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She and John decided they would wait one year before introducing each other to their children and have been dating for 10 months.
Because she and John were getting closer to meeting each other’s children, they began discussing the future much more.
One night, the topic of marriage and children came up.
“I told him I am not opposed to getting married again, but I definitely do not want any more children,” she recalled.
She told John she wasn’t willing to have another baby because it would be expensive; she has had high-risk pregnancies in the past and even lost a baby, and she doesn’t want to go through that again.
She also feels like she’s finally becoming more independent as her kids have left their baby phases, so she doesn’t want to go back to square one.
To her surprise, John was very upset when she vulnerably told him all of this, as he told her he always dreamt of having at least one child with the person he married.
She reminded John that if they got married and had a baby, they’d have to raise five children, and she asked if he was ready for that.
John said it wouldn’t be an uncommon scenario and that he was offended she would suggest he wouldn’t be prepared to take on five kids.
“He ended up telling me that not wanting another kid was a dealbreaker to him, and I said fine, but I definitely would not be changing my mind,” she added.
John became angrier as their conversation progressed, and he snapped at her, saying he didn’t understand why she was so concerned about money since her ex paid her child support.
He also told her that since she didn’t want another kid with him, she must not have been serious about him all along.
John’s words stuck with her, and she wondered if she had said anything wrong.
Should she consider having another kid with John, or was she right to put her foot down?
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