He Called Off His Engagement After His Fiancée Complained That He Should Have Spent $20,000 On The Ring
How much you choose to spend on an engagement ring is a deeply personal topic. Some believe you should spend x amount of your salary on a ring, while others don’t see the value in spending a ton of money on a material object.
For this man, he opted to purchase a lab-grown diamond ring for his fiancée, and he paid $2,400 for it.
He proposed, and everything seemed like it was trending towards happily ever after. Several days after the proposal, his fiancée found out how much he had spent on her ring.
He’s not sure how this even happened, but his fiancée complained to him about what it cost, as it wasn’t good enough for her.
“She told me she felt hurt that I would spend so little on her, claiming it reflected her worth and the seriousness of our future marriage,” he explained.
“When I asked what she had expected, she said the ring should have been at least $20,000. Granted, I sat her down and explained that while I could certainly afford a more expensive ring, we needed to manage expectations.”
“There’s also a wedding to plan, and we might be covering most of the costs ourselves since neither of our parents has the means to help.”
It’s not like they have never discussed their finances; they certainly have. He outlined to his fiancée some of the better ways they could make use of the $20,000 he did not spend on her ring.
He told her they could pay off one of their car loans with that kind of cash or use it for a down payment on a home.
Evelina M. – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
They could also invest the money or apply it to finance a business idea she’s previously expressed interest in.
Again, these were not new topics of discussion; he just addressed them once more with her, considering how unhappy she was about the money he chose not to put into the ring.
“As someone who didn’t grow up with financial stability, becoming financially secure and literate is a major priority for me,” he said.
“But despite the conversation, she insisted she would still feel bothered if I didn’t upgrade the ring. Gentlemen, the price of a diamond ring should never dictate the quality of your marriage. I don’t need to be married to know that.”
“I’ve been a supportive and committed partner (otherwise, she wouldn’t have accepted my proposal). Her response shocked me, and after a lot of reflection, I ultimately decided to end our relationship.”
In the days following his decision to call off their engagement, he’s been struggling, and he’s been emotional.
His friends and family members are reacting in ways that only make it more difficult for him to process this, but he knows he’s making the right choice for himself.
Getting engaged went from what should have been a highlight of his life to a pretty dark spot for him.
“We clearly have different values, and I realized this isn’t the kind of marriage I want. It hurts—I won’t lie—but a price tag on a shiny mineral shouldn’t define the foundation of a partnership,” he concluded.
Do you think he made the right choice ending his engagement after how his fiancée reacted to the price of the ring?
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