She Went On Two Amazing Dates With A Guy Who Said They Should Slow Down Since He’s Not Looking For Anything
Everyone dates for different reasons – some use it to meet a fun person for just a night, while others date with the intention of finding their soulmate. But to date for no reason at all is kind of weird because what’s the point then?
Two weeks ago, this 22-year-old girl met a 26-year-old guy on a dating app, and after speaking for two days, they moved their conversations off the app.
They talked about meaningful things, and a week after matching, they went out on their first date.
“It was a great date, in my opinion, and we found we have a lot of the same values, morals, goals, and expectations,” she explained.
“After the date, he texted and said he had a great time and would like to do another. So we set something up for a few days later.”
Things between them were getting pretty flirty to a level that made her feel a bit overwhelmed, so she conveyed to him that she would like to “slow down.”
She expressed wanting to make sure he really was invested in getting to know her instead of trying to simply hook up with her.
He was respectful and said it was no problem to take it slower. They then went out on their second date, which was amazing.
They learned more about one another, and when the date was over, she kissed him. It was quick and innocent on her end.
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He didn’t text her until the following day, which was abnormal for him, and he agreed they had a great time on their date but should go slow since they only were a week into knowing one another.
She replied that she was happy they shared the same opinion on the pace. However, she felt let down by him no longer frequently communicating with her.
She also felt awful about herself since she thought he was interested, and she was concerned he was slowly ghosting her.
She questioned him about if there was anything going on, which resulted in him pulling back. He replied that he’s not trying to hurt her feelings, but that when they matched on the app, he wasn’t exactly looking for anything in particular.
He was not invested in a serious or casual relationship, which is puzzling to her since why would you be on a dating app?
He went on to say he knows they were moving too quickly and texting nonstop, and while they did hit it off, he needs to think about his next steps.
She agreed to give him the space to do that and mentioned she’ll be waiting when he works it all out.
“Currently, I’m feeling like, yes, it’s good that we are slowing down, and I know it’s only been a week since our first date, she said.
“Rationally, I know this is a good thing, but at the same time, emotionally, I feel already so happy and connected with him, and now that he’s pulling away, it makes me think that he may be feeling differently about me.”
“I genuinely can’t tell if this is his way of getting out of moving forward with me (maybe he’s just trying to slip away slowly to ease the hurt it may cause) or if he’s being honest and does actually like me but needs time to figure out if he’s ready to go forward.”
She feels embarrassed for liking this guy so much after not knowing him for a long time. She’s left wondering what to do.
What advice do you have for her?
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