His New Girlfriend Called Him Cheap Because He Wanted Her To Cover Half Of Their Dinner Bill And Said A Real Man Wouldn’t Ask Her To Pay
This 25-year-old guy started dating an amazing woman, who’s also 25, just a few weeks ago. They hit it off from the beginning, and he thought everything was going great for the most part.
“She’s smart, funny, gorgeous, and all the things I was looking for. But now, there’s a bit of a situation, and I’m honestly wondering if I messed up,” he said.
For some context, ever since their relationship began, he has picked up most of the tabs during their dates, which he figured was quite normal. He didn’t mind footing the bill, and he wanted to make a good impression by “treating” his new girlfriend.
“But recently, I’ve started to feel like I’m the only one contributing financially. I pay for our dinners, movies, outings, and even things we pick up for her apartment when I’m over there,” he explained.
His girlfriend, on the other hand, has never offered to pay any of these expenses once.
He clarified that he wasn’t expecting her to just take over everything. However, if she offered to split an occasional bill or buy him a coffee from time to time, he believed that would’ve been nice.
He just doesn’t like how the cost of everything they do is falling on him. Sure, he works hard and enjoys being generous. Yet he’s not exactly rich, and he cannot be his girlfriend’s financial support system.
That’s why things came to a head just last night when he and his girlfriend went out to dinner at a nice restaurant she had picked out. After the check arrived at their table, she apparently looked at him, too, expecting him to handle it.
This pushed him to ask if she’d consider paying for her half of the meal, given the fact he’d been buying everything for them lately.
New Africa – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
His girlfriend was really shocked by his request and became really quiet. Then, she accused him of being cheap and stated that a “real man” wouldn’t ask his girlfriend to pay.
“I told her it’s not about being cheap; it’s about feeling like things are fair,” he reasoned.
Nonetheless, his girlfriend claimed he was “ruining the romance” and caused a big scene before storming out of the restaurant. So, not only was he stuck with the tab again, but he was also seriously embarrassed and had to apologize to their server for their drama.
In the wake of this incident, his girlfriend is barely speaking to him. And she even told some of their mutual friends that he “humiliated” her in public by demanding money from her like a cheapskate.
“She thinks I’m in the wrong for asking her to contribute, and now I’m wondering if maybe I came off too strong. I don’t want to be that guy, but I also don’t want to be taken advantage of,” he vented.
Should men always have to pay for every date, or are things supposed to balance out once an official relationship starts?
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