His Wife’s Furious That He Gives His Ex Money For Their Kids Because She Wants More To Spend On Herself
This man shares three children with his ex, who are eleven, thirteen, and sixteen. He doesn’t pay his ex a specific amount of money in child support each month, which is an unusual arrangement.
He and his ex worked out the amount among themselves, asked lawyers to check their work, and filed their documents with their local court.
So, their arrangement is legal, even though he’s not court-ordered to pay her child support. When each month comes to a close, he and his ex talk about the upcoming month’s expenses in regard to their children.
Food, health insurance, school, and extracurricular activities all come into play, considering the amount he gives his ex each month.
“Some months my kids need more, some months they don’t,” he explained. “I also put money away each month for emergencies.”
“Like when my ex broke her leg, and I covered her while she was off work. Or when her mom died, and she couldn’t afford to pay for her and the kids to fly to her hometown, so I paid for the kids.”
“My ex goes the extra mile for me, too, when I need it. When my parked car was written off by some kids joyriding, she gave me her car to use until I got another. Or when [I] and my wife had to isolate during the pandemic because we had COVID, my ex did our shopping for us and brought it all over with some home-cooked meals for both of us.”
That’s your glimpse into the kind of relationship he has with his ex, and he doesn’t want it to ever change.
Things work great for them, and their kids benefit from them being on excellent terms with one another instead of playing the role of enemies.
anatoliy_gleb – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people – pictured above a smiling woman tells her manicurist what nail polish color she wants at the salon
In contrast, his wife’s co-parenting abilities with her ex are as volatile as it gets, and they’re both to blame.
His wife and her ex can’t be in the same room without turning on one another, and they love accusing the other person of being the reason for their failed relationship.
When he first started seeing his wife, she tried to rope him into the drama, but he put his foot down. He had no interest in painting his wife’s ex as a villain, as he didn’t know him back then.
Now he does, and he thinks he’s a nice guy. He just wishes his wife and her ex could drop their own baggage and focus on what’s important – their kids.
Earlier in the year, his wife’s ex wound up losing his job. He does have a second job, but it hardly pays as much as the one he lost.
Since he underwent a change in income, his wife’s ex was required to pay less money in child support.
After their oldest celebrated their 18th birthday, the child support requirement was reduced even further.
He didn’t ask his wife for details, nor did he question her about what she did with the child support money.
To him, it was none of his concern, just like it’s not appropriate for his wife to stick her nose in his arrangement with his ex.
“But now she says she’s not getting enough and doesn’t have enough for things like getting her hair done, spa days, paying for her insurance, her phone, putting gas in her car, and she needs me to cover her,” he said.
“I have a set amount of money that comes in every month, and every dollar is accounted for. I pay what I need for my kids; I pay my mortgage on time; I pay my bills on time; I make sure there is food in the refrigerator and the cupboards; I pay all my insurance; I pay everything I have to pay.”
“That’s a lot of money for necessities going out every month. I don’t have a lot left for savings once that’s all gone. But my wife wants what’s left, and she wants me to cut back on what I give my ex. What I don’t understand is where is all her money? She works part-time; she still gets support for one child, and she doesn’t pay anything towards the household unless we count the takeout dinners she brings home once or twice a month. So, where is her money?”
He and his wife have been arguing nonstop about cash, and he thinks his wife is trying to take from his kids by insisting he give his ex less.
His wife always had a solid connection with his kids, but currently, it’s like they’re standing in her way to have what she thinks is her right: his money.
He keeps telling his wife he’s not going to take money away from his children so she can get her nails done.
Their last fight was the most toxic, with his wife snapping that he needs to change his position on money and start prioritizing her, or she’s going to reconsider staying in their marriage.
“In anger, I told her to call her lawyer after she moves…out of my house,” he added. He’s left wondering if it’s wrong of him not to want to give his ex less money for their kids so he can give his wife more money.
What do you think?
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