It’s exhausting enough to be married with a family and keep up with that, so I don’t understand how some people out there find the time and energy to have a double life.
What would you do if you found out that your spouse was secretly married to someone else and had a child with this person, too?
This 36-year-old woman’s 38-year-old husband is her high school sweetheart. They now have two daughters who are 14 and 16, and three dogs.
She has a remote job and works from home, which gives her the freedom to do part-time marketing jobs on the side, while her husband is a truck driver who spends a week on the road at a time and comes home for several days before leaving for his next trip.
She and her husband equally share their bills and additional expenses, but all the money left over, they keep separately. They do have joint bank accounts for vacations and emergencies, but other than that, they’re free to spend what they want however they want. She was under the impression that they were very independent, and this financial arrangement worked for her.
Within the last year, her in-laws have wanted to know how her brand-new electric car has been holding up, and honestly, it’s progressed into a nightmare.
Her in-laws are the sweetest, and they were so concerned about her car no longer being reliable that they bought her something else just in case.
“Two weeks ago, they showed up in front of my house with a cute little Fiat. Used, but perfectly functional. I could tell they worried I wouldn’t want to take such a gift because the first thing my FIL mentioned is how cheap it was, a bargain he couldn’t pass,” she explained.
“Such sweet gestures from them, always worrying about my girls and [me] being safe while their son is away, always melt my heart. They’ve always been there looking out for us. I could never refuse. So I said thank you and took them for a ride.”
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“Anyways. I have always lived for the flair. Every single vehicle I have owned has gotten a pink or purple paint job or been covered in stickers. Call me tacky, or whatever, I don’t care, it brings me joy. So as soon as we got the keys to this cute little thing, my girls and I were off to get it wrapped.”
They picked out a glimmery, smoky lavender color and put some fun bumper stickers on it. When her husband saw what she and the girls did to the car, he melted down, and she’s never seen her husband behave like that before.
Her husband argued that this car was basically his since his mom and dad bought it for her. She reminded her husband that it was a gift to her, not him, and her in-laws put the title in her name.
Her husband freaked out and insisted it was their car, not her car. She still couldn’t understand why he freaked out like that, and he snapped that she ruined the resale value with what she did.
She felt lost, as they weren’t trying to sell the car, and the new color is a wrap, so you can remove it. Also, they’re financially fine, and she has money saved up, so even if her husband lost his job tomorrow, they would not have to sell the car.
“What could be so bad that he needs to sell a car we didn’t have until 2 weeks ago and never told me about it? Well, folks, it wasn’t a buyer. It was his other ‘wife,’ no kidding, he won’t call her a mistress,” she said.
“She stalks us on social media and was tired of the ‘favoritism,’ so she threatened to tell everyone the truth unless he gave her the car. Why? Because his parents have never met her and she has never gotten anything from them, like I have.”
“Favoritism? Lady, we didn’t even know you existed. I learned they have a child too, but I will not be talking about the child since it is not his fault, so I will keep him out of this. In the end, me refusing to ‘sell’ the car and my kids posting it on social media made her come out and DM us everything about their relationship with receipts and all.”
She felt dead on the inside after that. She’s furious, devastated, and she can’t see how she didn’t suspect her husband of having a secret double life and second family. Her girls are also heartbroken.
She’s not sure if she should tell her in-laws, hire a lawyer, or call a therapist. Her in-laws literally have a grandchild they aren’t aware exists.
“Our family, our lives, everything is upside down; it feels unreal. And it all started with a little kawaii Fiat,” she concluded.
Wow, her husband is one of the biggest liars I have ever heard of, considering he concealed a whole second family. She definitely needs to call a lawyer and file for divorce while also telling her in-laws.
They sound like wonderful people who will support her through this.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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