An Old Friend Sent Her An Invite To Her Wedding And She Isn’t Sure How To Say No
Fallouts with our closest friends can be one tough situation to go through. If you’re in a similar situation, you may be asking yourself, what happened to best friends forever?
As we get older, we learn a lot about who we are as a person, our interest changes, and so do we. This is why friendships tend to take a turn in the wrong direction as you begin to realize after all this time, you are two completely different people.
So the friend starts to get a bit awkward, and you begin to notice an unwanted shift in the situation.
So what do you do next? Especially when you get invited to their wedding?
Two women became friends in high school. They are now 30-years-old with ten plus years of friendship that includes coffee chats, movies, and events that contain some of their shared interests.
They would also exchange gifts during the holidays as well as on birthdays.
A few years before the pandemic, one of the girls felt a shift in the relationship as she noticed her friend slowly slipping away.
She would invite her friend out for their usual get-togethers and find that most invitations were accepted but canceled at the last minute.
The friend would even accept plans secured by an entrance fee and would still cancel the day after multiple reminders and reassurances that she would be there.
Fast forward to her birthday, and the friend that usually cancels on her decides to buy her a ticket to a restaurant/movie theater they have been talking about. They meet at the restaurant, and the birthday girl is surprised by an extra guest. Someone she had never met before, leaving the situation very awkward.
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This then happens again for one more occasion.
Feeling emotionally drained from the friendship, she decided to pull back, and the following year ahead would make her very uneasy.
Months went by with no word from her friend. She missed her birthday, a pet’s passing, and other minor occurrences where the friend never reached out to make sure she was okay.
Being the bigger person, she still reached out for birthdays and other life events to wish her friend the best.
Eventually, they sit down and have a discussion where they both realize that they had similar issues with each other, and while they would remain friends and catch up every once in a while, the friendship is nothing like it used to be.
After some time has passed, the hurt friend gets an invitation to her friend’s wedding. However, she is not excited about the situation and feels that it may be best for her not to attend after all that they have been through.
She also wonders if the friend sent the innovation out of guilt or pity.
Should she attend the wedding and try to mend what is left of the relationship? Or has this friendship passed its expiration date, and she should politely decline and move on?
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