She Feels Like She’s Really Boring And It’s Ruining Her Dating Life Because Guys Aren’t Interested In Her
A 25-year-old woman has been single for about 2 years now after she and her ex split up in 2020. She dated her ex for close to 4 years, and she even lived with this guy.
Although she has put herself on multiple dating apps and sort of tried to talk to new guys, she just can’t do it.
She doesn’t feel into anyone, and she never used to be like that before she met her ex.
Recently, she noticed that her ex has moved on and gotten a brand new girlfriend, and when she took a look at this girl online, it made her feel bad about herself.
“I creeped on her (I know I know) and she’s really cool, really pretty..really educated, really social,” she explained. “All these things I feel I’m not.”
She desperately wishes that she could move on as her ex did, but she isn’t able to move forward. After looking at her ex’s new girlfriend, she was left feeling incredibly envious.
She does believe there’s one major thing holding her back from seeing someone else; she thinks that she’s “boring” and it’s making her “stuck.”
As for why she feels that boring is the best way to describe her? Well, her ex called her that word when they split up.
Her ex thought she was boring because she was going to school full-time and working a full-time job on top of that.
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“I don’t know,” she continued. “I go to work. I come home and play with my dog who is my world, and binge true crime docs with my roomie.”
“I then do some yoga, journal, and go to sleep. That is my routine every day. I’ve recently started aerial fitness, which is really fun, but it’s only something I do once a week.”
That’s pretty much her life, although occasionally she will go outside of her routine and swim, make crafts, bake, or read, though that’s not on her normal list of things she enjoys.
“I’m boring,” she added. “Guys don’t want to date that. I’ve tried to change myself but IDK how. I hate who I am and my personality has nothing to offer.”
She’s wondering how she can accept herself while putting herself out there.
One person helpfully pointed out, “Just because someone says you are boring does not actually mean you are. In his personal opinion, you are, but that is what it is. An opinion.”
“Just focus on yourself for a bit. Regain some confidence. Try a new style you wanted to try. Do things you love.”
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