He Was Thinking Of Proposing To His Girlfriend, But One Of His Girlfriend’s Friends Told Him To Reconsider
This thirty-two-year-old man lives in the UK and has been dating his girlfriend for nearly five years now. And since their relationship has been progressing really well, he has been thinking about proposing.
“I mentioned it to a close friend whose girlfriend is close with my partner and her group of friends. But nothing serious has happened so far. I have just looked at a few rings and have been debating the idea for the past few weeks,” he explained.
Nonetheless, his past relationship has kind of come back to haunt him in the process.
When he was in his early twenties, he became close friends with a girl he met in college. Then, they began dating, and their relationship lasted around three years.
“We were perfect for each other and spent almost all of our time together,” he recalled.
Tragically, though, she passed away in a car accident– so his hopes of a future with her suddenly melted away.
His current girlfriend knows all about what happened in his last relationship, though, and has been extremely supportive of his grieving– for example, when he visits his ex’s grave to pay respects on the anniversary of her death.
Moreover, his girlfriend has never expressed feeling hurt or upset about him doing this despite him asking multiple times. Plus, his girlfriend has even bought him flowers to bring to his ex’s grave on occasion.
Regardless of all this, though, he was recently approached by one of his girlfriend’s friends with a bizarre accusation.
Dusko – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
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First, the friend asked him to talk privately– which he immediately thought was odd.
Then, after they went to get coffee, the friend shared she had heard he was thinking of proposing and actually asked him to reconsider.
“This really shocked me as I thought I was well-liked by her friends. But, she explained that it would not be fair for me to marry my girlfriend when I was still attached to my ex and that it would be kinder to ‘let her go’ to someone that could fully commit,” he said.
After hearing this, he first tried to argue that he was entirely in love with his girlfriend. After all, she means the world to him, and he is incredibly grateful they met.
But then, the friend posed a weird question. They asked if his ex were alive today, would he still choose his girlfriend over her?
This completely caught him off guard, and, at that moment, he did not have an answer. Still, his pause only reassured the friend that they had been right.
So, the friend went on to reassure him that they only wanted what was best for his girlfriend and urged him to “have a long think” about if proposing was truly the right choice.
And ever since then, he has been left completely confused about what to do.
Before that conversation, he had been totally confident in his decision to propose to his current girlfriend.
But, the friend’s question has thrust him between his ex and girlfriend again, and he has realized that he is super torn between the two of them.
So now, he is not sure if asking his girlfriend to marry him while he is still hung up over his ex would be a totally jerky thing to do.
Moreover, he has been wondering if letting his girlfriend find someone with “no history to haunt them” would be the best option.
Do you think it is natural to still have some feelings for someone who passed away or not? Should he reconsider the proposal? What would you do in his shoes?
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