Her Husband Is 19 Years Older Than She Is, And He’s No Longer Interested In Spending Any Kind Of Time With Her
A 28-year-old woman is currently married to her husband, who is 19 years older than she is, and they tied the knot just 2 years ago.
They then went on to have a baby, who is 1-year-old, and now she’s pregnant with their second child.
Her husband has a pretty stressful career, though he mainly works from home and can make his own hours.
He spends a lot of his days and evenings taking calls for work, and he does have to go out to lunches for his job as well as be available to go on business trips within a moment’s notice.
A lot of his attention is taken up by his job and these constant, nonstop calls that he has to take, but that’s not the only thing that really takes up the majority of his time.
“He is extremely social and has friends and houseguests visiting ALL the time,” she explained.
“Most days, he hangs out with a friend at some point while I’m home with the baby. He has a lot of female friends, some he’s been friends with for decades, and they seem to expect a lot from him in terms of emotional availability, general availability, etc.”
“The baby needs a lot of attention and prefers me since she’s usually with me, so he sleeps in another wing of the house, and I do evening and nighttime by myself.”
She and her husband do not sleep in the same bed, as their daughter gets up during the night, and largely, she’s alone with their daughter.
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The only time she really does see her husband is around dinner time, but that’s only if he is not on a call.
Now, every night, he will spend time with their daughter for about one hour, but then he goes off to play video games or watch videos in his office, that’s located in another area of their house.
Instead of trying to do things with her, he chooses to retreat to his office.
“Exception is that he likes us to come on his morning coffee run if we can,” she said. “The moment we sit in the car, he turns up the music.”
“EVERY time before my seatbelt is even buckled. No opportunity to talk ever while we’re running errands. Getting coffee, we don’t talk much. We don’t go on dates. I do suggest these things. I tell him I want intimacy. I want time together. He acknowledges and does nothing, just continues to do his own thing. So I don’t take the extra step of planning and MAKING it happen because I feel hurt and withdrawn in turn.”
Her husband is content to keep everything the way that it is. She’s pretty positive that there isn’t another woman in his life, and he loves being able to talk about having a wife and children to people in his life.
When she does pass her husband in their house, he does mention that she looks gorgeous or he compliments her. He also tells her that she’s doing a wonderful job, but that’s the extent of them really interacting. He doesn’t try to connect with her in a meaningful way, and when they do stop to talk, it’s only about what needs to be done around their house.
“I feel so lost, and I don’t know what to do because I want him to want it,” she continued. “I don’t want him to force himself to do something romantic he’s not into that would feel the opposite of romantic. I really love him and want to connect with him.”
What do you think she can do to get her husband to spend more quality time with her?
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