She Said She Would Not Babysit Her Friend’s Son So Often Anymore Unless She Was Given Legal Rights In The Event Of An Emergency, And Her Friend Freaked Out
This twenty-eight-year-old woman has been living with her good friend, who is thirty, in an apartment that she has owned for a little while now.
For context, she has been close with her friend for about a decade now, and they have lived together on a few separate occasions over the years.
Then, when she finally decided to purchase her own place, her friend ended up asking to move in again.
“It was a good deal. My friend gets to save to buy by paying reduced rent, and I get some help with the mortgage,” she explained.
However, her friend’s background has recently led her to have some serious concerns about their living arrangement.
Apparently, her friend hails from a very religious family that does not believe in premarital intimacy, drinking alcohol, or other activities. And in recent years, her friend decided to stray from her family’s more conservative practices.
But shockingly, her friend’s parents were actually okay with that and accepted her friend’s choices. The only catch, though, was that her friend was expected to keep that side of her life hidden from the family.
So, that arrangement worked for a while. Well, that was until this past year, when her friend had a one-night stand, wound up pregnant, and actually decided to keep the baby.
Following that news, her friend’s very religious family actually disowned her. And while her friend was heartbroken by the reality, her friend was also not super surprised.
Alena Ozerova – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
And in an effort to be here for her friend, she decided to offer up a really generous idea.
“I told her that I was okay with her continuing to pay rent here and live with me for as long as she needs,” she recalled.
So, ever since her friend gave birth to a baby boy six months ago, she has been living alongside the new mother and helping her friend raise her baby.
About two months ago, though, a new wrench was thrown into the plan– because apparently, her friend’s parents ended up reaching out and claimed that they wanted to see her friend.
And her friend was honestly over the moon– not just to see her parents again, but also to see her younger siblings whom she helped raise.
Yet again, though, her friend’s parents had another rule about visitation– her friend was not allowed to bring the new baby boy since her friend’s family wanted nothing to do with him.
This meant that while her friend went to visit family, the baby boy had to be left behind. So, she ended up offering to look after her friend’s baby and figured it would just be a one-time thing.
Well, over the past two months, her friend has actually gone to visit her parents practically every weekend and sometimes even spends nights there during the week. So, if you could not have guessed, she has gotten stuck watching her friend’s baby boy during all of those travel times.
To be honest, though, she really did not mind watching her friend’s son. Apparently, he is a really well-behaved baby, and she actually loves hanging out with him.
The only thing that really threw her for a loop was when her friend’s son got really sick last weekend while her friend was away. In fact, the baby ended up spiking a fever so high that she was forced to take him to the hospital.
And apparently, while she was terrified about what was going to happen to her friend’s son, her friend did not answer the phone for six whole hours. Then, her friend did not even arrive at the hospital for another three hours– her friend’s family lives an hour away.
So, on top of feeling very nervous for the baby during that time, she was also literally powerless since she was not the baby’s mother. After all, the hospital had regulations about how much she could be with the baby and how much she could decide in terms of the baby’s care.
“And although he is better now, I am worried about looking after him again,” she revealed. Completely understandable.
However, this meant that when her friend ended up asking her to look after the baby again this past weekend, she kind of freaked out on her friend.
She explained to her friend how she had been placed in a horrible position without any means of intervention or authority over the baby’s care the last time she babysat. So, she ultimately told her friend that if she was going to be expected to watch the baby again, she would need some sort of guardianship or medical rights in the event of an emergency.
For whatever reason, though, her friend just did not understand that. Instead, her friend just ended up crying and actually accusing her of trying to “hold her friend hostage” with an ultimatum.
“An ultimatum that means my friend can’t see her parents if she doesn’t agree to give me rights to her son,” she clarified.
Anyway, since seeing how upset her friend was by her request for rights, she has been left feeling like kind of a jerk.
At first, she thought she was being very generous by watching her friend’s son and just wanted him to be in the best possible care whenever his mother was not present. Now, though, she has been left wondering if refusing to watch her friend’s son unless she gets some sort of legal rights was the wrong way to handle the situation.
What do you think about her friend keeping the baby boy from the family? What happens when her friend’s son eventually grows up and learns the truth? How about the medical rights– do you think it was reasonable for her to request that if she is watching her friend’s baby so often? If you were in her shoes, how would you navigate this situation?
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