She Grabbed Dinner With A Guy Who Made Her Split The Bill With Him Before Asking If She Considered Their Night Out A Date

Have you ever wondered if your date is actually interested in you? Maybe you’re thinking, ‘is this even a date?’ because they’re an old friend.
This is the exact experience that TikToker Sara DiPasquale, @sara_dipasquale_ , relayed concerning one of her bad dates.
“This date pissed me off for a couple of reasons,” she said. “First of all, I knew the guy–I’d known him over a year, mutual friend.”
After knowing him just as a friend, it started to get weird when he began to show some interest in her– but not blatantly enough for her to know that he was interested in her.
“He randomly asked me out– out of nowhere,” she said. “Which I was like, ‘okay, pleasantly surprised.'”
She never had any inkling from him that he would ever ask her out on a date, so it was a little shocking that he suddenly mentioned it to her.
“It was so spontaneous that I didn’t know if it was a date or not,” she said. “Because he said, ‘oh, remember that restaurant you recommended to me? We should grub there.'”
Despite his bizarre phrasing, she agreed to go out with him. But things immediately took a turn for the worse once the date rolled around. They made plans to meet up on a Wednesday night for dinner.
“So the first ‘no-no’ is, okay, once you ask me out on Instagram, get my phone number! I don’t want to Instagram DM,” she said. “We decided 7:30; we were going to meet.”

Serafima – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Once Wednesday came, she started to get ready for the date. Although she believed that they had agreed on a specific time, he unexpectedly decided to delay their date, even though he had the least distance to travel.
“I was on my way there at around 7 ’cause it takes me 30 minutes to get uptown where he lives, and we chose a place near him,” she said. “At 7:05, he DMs me, and he goes, ‘hey, can we do 7:45 instead? I have to run an errand’.”
Asking to delay 5 minutes because you’re running late is one thing, but an entire 15 minutes because you want to stop at a few stores beforehand isn’t the right approach to a date. It’s no wonder she thought she was just meeting a friend for dinner.
“I’m like, ‘okay, well, I’m already going to be there at 7:30 at this rate, so I’ll grab us a table’,” Sara said.
But the red flags started to wave for her once she got to the restaurant, and had to wonder if he wasn’t coming.
“I’m waiting, you know, 15 minutes, and then 7:50 rolls around–he’s still not there; 7:52–he’s still not there; he messages me: ‘just got here,'” she said. “I’m like, ‘great! I’m inside.’ I waited another 15 minutes for this guy.”
Right when she started thinking that she should leave the restaurant, he walked through the door.
“He comes in, and he’s like, ‘oh, I’m so sorry! I was sitting outside at a table,'” Sara explained. “At this point, I’m like, okay, uh–interesting.”
Being extremely late wasn’t the only red flag for her on this date. There were plenty more to come.
“Second thing, again, I’m asking a lot of the questions,” she said. “He doesn’t get my sense of humor most of the time.”
The end of the date couldn’t come fast enough for her, but when it did, she was shocked by his behavior.
“The worst part of the date was that um, the check comes, and the waiter hands him the check,” she explained. “He opens it, and he stares at it, and then he just looks up at me. Doesn’t take out his card: nothing.”
There was absolutely no way that he was paying for the date, it seemed.
“Did you need me to split it?” she asked him. “He doesn’t hesitate at all; he goes, ‘yeah.'”
Even after being horribly late, not making good conversation, and making her split the dinner bill with him, he somehow managed to make it even worse.
He had the audacity to ask her if she thought this counted as a date.
“He goes, ‘so I’m kind of bad at this, but would you consider tonight a date?'” she said with a shocked expression. “I look at him, and he’s like, ‘because I did,’ and I wanted to be like if this was a…date, you would have paid for me!”
Needless to say, he didn’t get a second date with Sara. And–for reference–no, women don’t consider this kind of behavior a “date.”
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