He Didn’t Go To His Son’s Wedding, Because He Spent The Night Taking His Son’s Ex Wife Out, And His Son Is Accusing Him Of Betrayal
This dad has a son who moved away to attend college as soon as he graduated from high school.
Then, when his son was only 19, he quickly got married to his girlfriend. He did his best to tell his son to slow down and get married later on, as he truly believed his son was not mature enough to handle marriage.
His son didn’t listen, got married, dropped out of college (so did his son’s wife), and then his son and his wife moved back to their town.
A year later, his son and his son’s wife welcomed a little girl into the world, and 16 months after that, his son’s wife gave birth to a boy.
But, rewinding a bit here, he and his wife realized right after their granddaughter was born that their son’s wife was struggling, and they figured it had to do with her being a new mom.
Right after their grandson was born, his son and his son’s wife decided to separate, and then they found out the real reason why she was so unhappy.
“She would bring the kids over for a visit, it was then she began unloading on us,” explained.
“I know there are two sides to every story, but considering I know my son, I believed her. I sat my son down numerous times to speak with him regarding his marriage. He refused to take responsibility and blamed her for everything, even when I directly pointed out where he was the sole problem.”
“They got into counseling, and for a year, things were ‘ok’ on the surface. Our DIL filed for divorce, my son 3 days later was on Facebook announcing his new girlfriend. A month later, they were engaged. My son had forced his then-wife to become a permanent SAHM at the birth of their first child.”
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So, his son’s wife, who he calls his daughter-in-law to this day, had nowhere to go and no family to help her out.
His daughter-in-law also had no friends in their town, so he and his wife knew they had to step in to help her. He and his wife got her and their grandchildren an apartment close to where they live since his daughter-in-law could not afford to do this.
Anyway, before his son’s divorce was final, he got an invitation to his son’s wedding in the mail, and he was surprised.
He informed his son that he would not be going to his wedding, and he also pointed out that he didn’t condone his new marriage at all.
As for his wife, she turned around and told his son that she would convince him to go to the wedding in the end.
He didn’t budge one bit, though; he refused to even consider going, and then he also banned his son’s new wife from coming to their house because it wasn’t respectful to his daughter-in-law.
His son got married 6 days ago, and his wife did end up going while he stayed home, despite his wife trying to get him to change his mind.
“Our daughter also did not attend for the same reasons,” he said. “My wife picked up our grandkids, got them dressed, and attended the wedding.”
“My daughter and I decided to spend the evening with his ex. I couldn’t imagine her sitting alone while her kids attended their father’s wedding. She was taken aback that I didn’t end up attending his wedding.”
“We took her out to distract her mind. I just wanted her to know she’ll always be considered family to us. My daughter also made a joke they can drop the in-law status and just be sisters now. She was very tearfully grateful, I realized just how badly she needed our support and, specifically, on that night.”
The following day, his son phoned him up to berate him for being a bad dad since he skipped out on the wedding entirely.
Several days after that conversation with his son, his son found out that he had spent the night hanging out with his daughter-in-law.
“He said that was the ultimate form of betrayal, and further, myself and his sister would have to earn an relationship with him on his terms only,” he continued.
He’s left wondering if it was wrong of him not to attend his son’s wedding after all. What do you think?
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