Her Husband Wants To Split Up Her Daughter’s College Fund Among Her Other Stepchildren, But Since It Was Specifically Left Behind By Her Late Husband For Her Daughter, She Thinks That Would Be Completely Unfair
This 42-year-old woman has a daughter who is currently 17-years-old. But, 10 years ago, she tragically lost her husband when her daughter was just 7.
Following the loss, she received a subsequent settlement that allowed her to set up a trust fund for her daughter.
This fund would cover college and graduate school if her daughter wanted to pursue it. Plus, there would be some leftover funds for whatever her daughter opted to spend it on.
So, if managed wisely, this money would basically give her daughter a head start in life. She claims that her daughter already knows about the fund, too, and has never taken any of the money for granted.
“After all, we would both rather have her father around than the money,” she said.
With that being said, life also continued after she lost her late husband. She ended up getting remarried six years later to a reportedly “lovely man” who had two children– a daughter who is also now 17 and a son who is 13.
Since then, all three children primarily live with her and her husband. But, her two stepkids do see their biological mother for vacations since she lives across the country.
Anyway, this year, both her daughter and her stepdaughter will be graduating from high school and heading to college.
Her daughter was ecstatic to learn that she was admitted early to her dream school.
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“Her father is an alumnus, and she has this old sweatshirt of his that she kept to remind her of him,” she explained.
“She cried so much when she got in, and both her stepfather and I were proud of her because she worked hard to get in.”
Her stepdaughter was admitted to a great school, too, that is reportedly top-ranked for her field of interest.
Now that she and her husband are done helping the girls navigate college applications, though, another problem has arisen– how exactly they are going to pay for her stepdaughter’s tuition.
Apparently, her husband and her stepdaughter’s biological mother are not able to afford the school’s full tuition. So, her stepdaughter will be forced to take out some loans.
According to her, her stepdaughter will graduate with about $40,000 of loans in total– which she still thinks is pretty modest compared to the school’s tuition and her stepdaughter’s post-graduation earning prospects.
Obviously, though, her own daughter will be able to graduate completely debt-free. And for her husband, that has apparently become a big problem.
In fact, he now wants to split up her daughter’s trust fund in order to help all three kids go through college– because, in theory, there is enough money to cover all of their education costs.
If they went through with that plan, though, she knows that her daughter would not have much money left over and would definitely need to take out loans for graduate school.
Still, her husband does not see that as a problem and believes that it is fair for all three kids to start out “on equal footing” following college.
Quite frankly, though, she thinks her husband’s idea is seriously unfair to her daughter. First of all, her late husband– her daughter’s father– had to die in order for any of that money to become available. Second, the fund is essentially her daughter’s inheritance from her late husband.
So, while her husband believes that her daughter should be happy to share the money with the other kids, she really does not want to put her daughter in that position or make her daughter feel guilted into saying “yes.”
Now, she has tried to express all of this to her husband. However, he just does not understand her perspective.
Instead, he actually accused her of being selfish and believes that she is also teaching her daughter to be selfish.
Finally, her husband even claimed that she did not consider her stepkids to be the same as her daughter.
So now, with her husband pretty upset with her, she has been left wondering whether refusing to split up her daughter’s college fund for the other children makes her a total jerk or not.
Is it fair for her daughter’s inheritance to be split up? Was the money left behind for her future stepchildren or her late husband’s biological daughter? If you were in her daughter’s shoes, how would you feel about this? What would you do in this situation?
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