When His Son Turned 16, He Gifted Him A Car, But His Daughter Just Turned 16 And He Didn’t Do The Same For Her So She’s Upset
This dad has several children, and just one of his children is a girl. When his oldest son turned 16, he gifted him a car that he owned.
This car was something he hadn’t used in a couple of years, and he says it was broken down, but they fixed it up together.
He also gave his son a little money to get the car fixed up, and he threw in some of his own money towards repairs as well.
Then, his younger son celebrated his 16th birthday and mentioned that he really would like a motorcycle.
For his birthday gift, he let him have a motorcycle of his, and he says it did not need any repairs done to it as it was working well.
“My daughter’s 16th birthday was last week,” he explained. “I know my daughter wanted a car, but I don’t have a car sitting around to give her.”
“I gave her $500 to put toward a car and got her some jewelry. I told her she would need to save up herself if she wanted a car, and I could help her get a loan in my name. She has a job, so this isn’t out of the question.”
“She was a little sulky about the situation and complained that I had given her brothers vehicles, but understood that I wasn’t trying to spite her. I have other younger sons that I will give the same to when they turn 16, so this isn’t me trying to single her out.”
He now knows that he should have stopped to think about making sure the 16th birthday gifts he gave to his older children will equal to those he will give his younger children, but his oldest son is so much older as opposed to the rest of his children that it never crossed his mind back then.
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When he gifted his oldest son a car, he was only thinking that he wanted to do a kind thing for his son.
Not only is his daughter upset that she didn’t get a car, but his ex-wife (the mother of his daughter) also is not happy with him either.
“She’s seen me give the other boys nice things for their birthday (my eldest is her stepson) and thinks I’m treating her differently because she’s a girl and that I always prioritize the boys,” he said.
“Apparently, my daughter was more upset about the lack of a car than I had thought. She thinks I should at least put more money towards our daughter getting a car as she knows I can afford it and am being (mean) by not getting her one. I told her that she could also give our daughter money for a car.”
He does have the money to purchase his daughter a used car on the more affordable side, and he does have the ability to gift her money for a car she wants to buy, but the thing is, he already technically spent more money on his daughter than his sons.
The $500 he gave his daughter is more than he spent on his sons, as their presents were things he already owned that we just taking up space in his garage.
“I can’t remember how much I gave my son to fix the car, but it was max $250,” he continued. “I have 3 younger kids. I can’t really continue to set a precedent that I’ll buy each of them a car…I feel like I ruined her birthday by letting her down.”
Do you think he should get his daughter a car, after all, and will that make it more equal between her and her brothers?
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