He Was Honest With His Mom About The Exact Moment He Lost All Love And Respect For Her, And Now He’s Wondering If He Was Too Harsh
When this 21-year-old man was only 8, his father passed away from an overdose. And because his mother was also an addict, his older sister gained custody of him and his two other sisters when she was only 19.
Now, his older sister is 23, and he currently lives with her– as do his younger sisters, who are 17 and 15. His mother is also going through end-stage renal failure.
“Assumingly because all of those years of not taking care of herself caught up to her,” he said.
Anyway, when his mom first started receiving dialysis about five months ago, he was put down as her emergency contact.
And in the beginning, he was forced to just deal with it. Apparently, his mom has no other family living in the area, and his older sister does not speak with her anymore.
Just a couple of days ago, though, the clinic contacted him again to pick his mother up. And this was after he found out that his mother instructed other family members to call his sister and leave threatening messages.
So, upon arriving, he told his mom that he would not be answering the clinic’s calls anymore after what she did. He also told her to find someone else to put down as her emergency contact.
If you could not have guessed, though, his mother did not understand and just became angry at him. Then, she started ranting about why he did not love her anymore and asking when he stopped loving her.
And at that point, he decided to finally be honest and detail the exact moment he stopped respecting and loving his mother.
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“I was 13, and I had just entered high school. I was big into football, and the coach at that time was brutal,” he recalled.
His coach was actually making him and his teammates practice twice a day– once at 5:00 a.m. and once after school.
So, he told his mom how he woke up one morning for practice and found her passed out on the couch after she used whatever substance.
At the same time, he also saw his older sister– who was just 15 at the time– standing there and freaking out.
She knew they had no food in the house– because they apparently never had any food– and was worried about him passing out after practicing so hard and barely eating.
He claimed that he tried to reassure his sister that he would be fine. But his sister was not going to let him leave the house on an empty stomach.
So, she reportedly went into the kitchen and grabbed the only ingredients they had– two-day-old nearly-burnt rice, a can of green beans, half a chicken breast, and salt.
Afterward, his sister made him and his siblings a whole fried rice meal to ensure everyone was fed.
“And I ate that meal on my way to practice crying,” he admitted.
While he was at school that day, his older sister also had to stay home to make sure his two younger sisters got to school safely and had someone to pick them up afterward. According to him, she did that most days, too.
Then, by the time he got home that day after his second football practice, he found his sister standing in the kitchen again. She was cooking dinner for everyone with new groceries in the fridge.
Apparently, his sister was only able to afford to buy those groceries by selling some rings her grandmother gave her to a sketchy guy who used to hang out by the convenience store.
All the while, he realized that his mother had remained high and passed out on the couch for that entire day.
Once he relayed all of these details to his mother, he told her that was the moment every bit of respect and love he had for her vanished.
Afterward, his mother reportedly started crying. Then, she accused him of being “evil.”
So, ever since then, he has been dealing with an internal moral conflict. And now, he is wondering whether he should have been more delicate with his mom or if he had a right to come clean about the exact moment he lost all love for her.
Do you think he should feel guilty about being honest with his mom? If she was not there for him during childhood, is it his responsibility to be there for her now? If you had been in the same situation, would you have told your mom the truth?
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