He Called His Wife Out For Criticizing His Parents And Got Accused Of Censoring Her

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This guy and his wife have two completely different relationships with their families.

He, for instance, has a very complicated and strained relationship with his parents. And while it has been improving ever since he had kids, he and his wife still don’t see his parents that much since they live overseas.

His wife, on the other hand, only has her mom since her dad passed away a long time ago, and she does not have any siblings.

“They are very close, and her mom has been with us about 50% of the last four years, helping out with our kids,” he said.

While he admits that his mother-in-law is nice, though, he does also have some issues with her. He thinks his mother-in-law is constantly a bad communicator– always mumbling.

This is especially frustrating since he can only communicate with his mother-in-law in her native language, which means it is significantly more difficult to understand her.

“I constantly tell her to speak up and speak clearly, and she just kind of giggles. Rude,” he explained.

Still, he tries not to make a big deal about his mother-in-law mumbling or the various other things that annoy him, such as his mother-in-law always being pessimistic or talking with food in her mouth.

After all, he knows that she is family. So, he just has to put up with it.

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Back when his parents visited him and his wife for two weeks, however, the same acceptance was not reciprocated by his wife or his mother-in-law.

Instead, they were actually relentlessly criticizing the way his parents spoke, dressed, and acted toward the kids and even their humor.

Sure, he admits that his parents can be a bit annoying. But that didn’t mean he liked how his wife and mother-in-law were treating them.

That’s why he approached his wife and reminded her that he puts up with all of his mother-in-law’s constant complaints.

Then, he asked his wife to do the same and stop badmouthing his parents, especially when with her mom.

“I told her that it makes me very sad and uncomfortable and that she should understand how much it means to me that our relationship is finally repaired,” he recalled.

“It’s not the time to complain about presents that they brought being inadequate.”

But for whatever reason, his wife did not understand his perspective and instead became furious with him.

She even accused him of “censoring” her.

He just doesn’t get why his wife is mad, either, and feels as though he is asking for his parents to be treated the same way he treats his wife’s mom.

Nonetheless, he realizes that perhaps he is not seeing the whole situation clearly.

So now, he’s wondering whether telling his wife that he didn’t like hearing constant criticism of his parents somehow made him a jerk.

Can you understand why he wants his parents to be treated equally as his mother-in-law? At the same time, does it sound like he always treats his mother-in-law kindly, or does he just tolerate her? How should he reconcile this situation?

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