Her Boyfriend Agreed To Get Married Last Year But Still Hasn’t Proposed, So She Thinks He’s Backing Out Of Their Future Plans
This 33-year-old woman has been dating her boyfriend, who is 44, for over four years now. But she no longer thinks her boyfriend is open to tying the knot.
For context, she does not have any kids of her own; meanwhile, her boyfriend has two sons, who are 14 and 17. So, she has gotten close with the kids and also dreams of being a mother one day.
So, last December, they had an honest discussion about their relationship and decided that they wanted to get married on October 28, 2023. Apparently, they both love Halloween, and October 28 is the day before her birthday, which was why they picked that date.
Despite agreeing to tie the knot, though, her boyfriend still has not proposed. She claimed that her boyfriend did send her ideas for their weddings, such as cute decor items. That was partially why she got her hopes up.
Not to mention, her boyfriend even told her that he wanted to have more kids– specifically three– with her. This really made her think a proposal was coming.
Yet, it is now July, and he has not popped the question. She started to get antsy, too, and finally decided to “nicely” ask her boyfriend what was going on.
But to her total surprise, her boyfriend completely went back on his word about both getting married and wanting more kids.
“I don’t know if I want more kids because I will be old, and I won’t be able to retire early, and getting married again is scaring me,” her boyfriend responded.
While she claims to completely understand her boyfriend’s concerns, however, her hopes have been high because her boyfriend started to get her excited about the wedding planning.
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Ever since she confronted her boyfriend about their marriage plans, she detailed how he has been getting into arguments with her, too. Apparently, he just keeps calling her crazy whenever she asks if something is wrong. So, she admitted that she has started to pull back a bit from her relationship.
“He said he wants me to cook and clean more, and I want to add that I am one year and five months sober, which was a factor for us,” she explained.
“And I have a great, stable job, and I do everything in my power to make him happy. But all I have been asking for in return is more romance.”
Nonetheless, whenever she brings up her needs, her boyfriend reportedly just gets defensive. He won’t really touch her anymore, either.
That’s why she eventually decided to tell her boyfriend that if tying the knot and having kids was not in the cards for them anymore, then she would have to move on.
“I love him so much. He’s an incredible father, he’s a hard worker, and I do everything to make his life easier,” she said.
Still, without her needs being met, she simply doesn’t want to remain in the relationship. She told her boyfriend that, too.
But rather than understanding her perspective on this, they just got into a massive argument in which her boyfriend accused her of throwing her twenties away due to partying.
At that point, she reminded him that she was now sober. She also told her boyfriend not to throw what happened in the past in her face because she was actively working hard to become a better person.
Anyway, since confiding in her support circle about the situation, they all claimed that her boyfriend was just freaking out because most of his friends are now divorced.
Even her boyfriend’s best friend actually took her side and stood up for her against her boyfriend.
“She is a rubber band that has been stretching, trying to work on things and kept stretching to please your needs and then just finally snapped because you aren’t fulfilling them,” the friend told her boyfriend.
She was both shocked and proud that her boyfriend’s best friend had her back. At the same time, her boyfriend’s mom basically told her the same thing and reassured her that she was not the problem.
Regardless, she still doesn’t know what to do. On the one hand, everyone keeps telling her to leave her boyfriend since she is getting older and her needs are clearly not being fulfilled.
Plus, whenever she tries to talk to her boyfriend about their issues, he just becomes defensive and accuses her of being crazy– which she absolutely cannot stand.
She also admitted to realizing that her boyfriend might just be scared to move forward.
“But I personally don’t feel like I deserve this,” she vented.
So now, she is trying to figure out whether she should stick around and keep pushing for marriage or cut her losses and leave her boyfriend.
Does it sound like her boyfriend is stringing her along? Have you ever been in a similar situation? If her needs are clearly not being met, should she leave now? What would you do?
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