Her Friend Was Constantly Complaining About Being Overweight Despite Being Skinny, So She Got Fed Up And Told Her Friend To “Lose A Few Pounds”
This woman has a friend named Jane, who is apparently constantly complaining about being “overweight.”
Due to this insecurity, Jane always feels disgusting and thinks that no guy will ever want to be with her due to being so “fat” and “gross.”
According to her, though, her friend Jane is nowhere near overweight.
“Jane looks to be a healthy weight, so as a result, everyone validates her on how skinny she is,” she said.
Not to mention, Jane always insists on having conversations about weight when she is around– and she is noticeably bigger than Jane.
That’s why she feels like everything Jane says about “disgusting, gross, fat, and undesirable” people actually just apply to her instead of Jane. And it’s really hurtful.
“I understand Jane has the right to feel however she wants about her body,” she clarified.
“But maybe it would be better to discuss this with a therapist or around people who aren’t visibly bigger than her.”
She’s tried to tell Jane this, too, pointing out how she is bigger than her friend. So, Jane’s comments indirectly insult her.
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Yet, Jane always just shrugs off her feelings and claims that she looks fine; it’s “just” Jane who appears “huge” and “gross.”
This still doesn’t sit well with her, though, since Jane is aware that she is 60 pounds heavier. She feels like the numbers don’t lie, which is why she repeatedly asked Jane to save the weight conversations for when she’s not around.
Now, she realizes that Jane is likely just degrading herself in an effort to fish for compliments and validation. So, after Jane kept disregarding her feelings and doing it anyway, she eventually got fed up and played along with Jane’s game.
“Well, you’re always complaining about how big and fat you are, so maybe it’s time to start a diet and work out so you can lose a few pounds,” she told Jane.
After that, her friend looked at her as if she had three heads. To be clear, she didn’t really mean what she said to Jane. Instead, she just thought that if she didn’t give Jane the response she wanted, then her friend would finally stop seeking validation.
Her friends didn’t think that was the greatest idea, though, and called her out for being mean since Jane has insecurities.
“But I personally think having insecurities is one thing, and using them to indirectly insult other people is another,” she vented.
Regardless, ever since facing backlash from her other friends, she’s been left wondering whether giving Jane a taste of her own medicine was the wrong thing to do.
Can you understand why she got so frustrated with Jane’s constant complaints? Would you also feel indirectly insulted? Did she have a right to shut Jane down, or was that too mean? What would you have done?
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