His Parents Think That Sending His Teen Son To Military School Is Too Dramatic, Even Though His Son’s Behavior Is Out of Control
This man and his wife have three children.
They have two sons, 14 and 8, and a 6-year-old daughter.
Their two younger children are wonderful, but unfortunately, their oldest son doesn’t behave.
“We took him to a psychiatrist to see if he had any disorders, but he doesn’t. He’s been to therapy, but it hasn’t helped. He bullies his younger brother very heavily,” he said.
While he understands that children will fight sometimes, the bullying his oldest son displays is more intense. It, at times, is so dramatic that he and his wife have to get involved.
He’s concerned that one day, the bullying will escalate towards physical violence and that his younger son will get injured. His younger son is obviously terrified of his older son, often shaking and looking for support from him after an incident.
Because of this tumultuous situation, he and his wife put their younger son in therapy to cope with the toxicity, and he is concerned that his older son’s cruelty will cause his younger son deep trauma.
Throughout this summer, his older son often went outside to ride his bike, not coming home for hours, never telling him or his wife where he was going.
Then, his older son’s behavior worsened. His son was apparently bullying one of their neighbor’s sons. He had no idea until, one day, the boy’s father came over to ask him to get his son to stop.
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He and his wife tried multiple avenues to get through to their son. They had discussions with him, their son’s psychologist, tried to reason with him, and they even tried grounding him when he acted out. Nothing seemed to change his behavior.
“So, I sent him to stay with my parents for a while. It was great for him and for us. My parents say he behaved well there,” he explained.
“Sometimes, I even wonder if the problem is me and my wife. On the other hand, my parents spoiled him. They bought many things for him, and he didn’t do chores at home.”
After his son returned home, he resorted back to his old ways.
His children went back to school, and his oldest son has gotten two detentions so far. Both at school and at home, his son uses vulgar language.
At home, he doesn’t clean his room and doesn’t do his homework, but he still gets good grades. His son has lashed out at other students at school and continues his bullying antics.
“I can’t take it anymore, and I want to send him to a military school this year. I’ve checked the cost and the transfer process, and they’re willing to accept him. Also, I attended a boarding school at his age,” he shared.
While his wife thinks this is a good idea, his parents don’t agree. They feel like sending his son to a military school is a dramatic move, and they added that what his son needed was support and guidance from him and his wife. His parents assured him that over time, his son’s behavior should improve.
Then, his parents expressed their concern about how “strict” the military school would be. But he said that the “strictness” was one of the advantages of sending his son there in the first place.
However, his parents didn’t back down, and they even told him that they were “passing the problem to the school instead of taking responsibility as parents.”
After the discussion with his parents, he’s now unsure if he should follow through with sending his son to a military school.
He wants to discuss the matter with his son’s therapist first, who is currently on vacation. Before making a decision, he wants to hear multiple perspectives so that he can make the most responsible decision.
Do you think he would be wrong to send his son to military school?
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