She Told Her Fiancé’s Family That They Can’t Bring An Aid For Their Special Needs Daughter To Her Wedding As A Plus-One
When you’re hosting a wedding, sometimes, allowing guests to bring plus-ones is out of your budget. But what would you do if your guest needed a plus-one for medical reasons?
One woman recently got into some drama with her future husband’s family after she told them they couldn’t bring a carer or aid as their special needs daughter’s plus-one to her wedding.
She and her fiancé are getting married next year and recently sent out their invitations.
They’re getting married in a very small venue that has a strict policy and limit for the number of guests they can have. So after inviting all their essential friends and family and booking photographers and their officiant, who count as guests, she and her fiancé realized they couldn’t allow guests to bring plus-ones.
So far, almost every single one of their guests has committed to the wedding, minus a few holdouts, which include her fiancé’s family.
“The holdouts are my fiancé’s immediate family, who are demanding a plus-one for his stepsister, Alice,” she explained.
“They want a carer to come with her for the day. She’s wheelchair-bound and has some minor learning difficulties but is generally very independent. Now, my fiancé didn’t make me aware that a plus-one would be necessary for her, and every family event I’ve been to, including my father-in-law and step-mother-in-law’s own wedding, Alice did not have a carer.”
When she and her fiancé asked if Alice suddenly had a new issue or needed assistance for something specific, his family said no, just that she gets tired easily and may need someone to take her home early if needed.
“My suspicion is that the family wants to have someone else be responsible for her so they can get drunk, but I can’t prove this,” she explained.
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“My fiancé wants to say yes for the sake of family harmony, but I’m not comfortable with a stranger being at our wedding, and it will put us over numbers.”
When she asked her venue if she could add one more person to her guest list, they strongly told her no, as it’s a historic venue with strict fire hazard regulations.
After some back and forth, she eventually had a friend, who was already going to her wedding, agree to help out Alice during the wedding if she needed anything. But then, after getting a moment to speak with Alice one-on-one about the issue, she learned the truth about what was going on.
“Alice then gave me the true story,” she added.
“Because she didn’t know me well, she asked her mom to ask me if her boyfriend could come as her plus-one, not a carer at all. I sent her the screenshots of what I’d been getting from her mom, and she was furious. [It] looks like my mother-in-law twisted the request to force me to say yes, and Alice is not at all happy.”
After she explained to Alice why she didn’t want a plus-one there because of the venue rules, Alice said she really didn’t need a plus-one at the end of the day and would be fine on her own.
Was she being rude by not immediately agreeing to let Alice have a plus-one, or was she right to investigate further?
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