Her Friend Kept Projecting Their Marriage Issues Onto Her Relationship, So She Told Her Friend That Just Because Their Marriage Sucks Doesn’t Mean Hers Also Has To
Don’t you hate when someone is in a bad relationship or has relationship issues and then projects all that negative energy onto your relationship?
One woman recently snapped at her friend, who won’t stop saying awful things about her and her husband since she and her husband have had major issues.
She’s 36 and has been married to her 45-year-old husband for over 10 years. They met when she was 21, and she made the first move on him after realizing she could relate and talk to him like no one else in her life.
She got pregnant the same year she married, and her life has been a whirlwind ever since. She and her husband have been through quite a lot together.
“As all couples do, we’ve had ups and downs,” she explained.
“[The] ‘ups’ are the two children we have. [The] down has mainly [been] discovering the brain tumor I have. It’s benign-ish, but messes with my hormones a lot, it gives me frequent migraines, I have memory issues, [my] cognitive functions are sometimes messed up, and I have an increased need for sleep. On top of that, we also found out that I’m bipolar and I have PTSD.”
Since getting diagnosed with PTSD, she’s started taking medication, and now it hardly affects their lives. However, she does have to stay home a lot of the time but receives disability payments.
Her husband works very hard to make up for the lost income and works in a city further away to earn more money, so he has to stay at hotels every Thursday through Sunday.
Despite the distance and all their challenges, she and her husband have stayed close and work together to keep their family afloat.
Drobot Dean – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Her friend, who is also married, has had the opposite experience with her husband. They’ve been together for four years, and he’s already cheated on her several times. He hardly does anything to contribute to their household and never offers to take care of the kids so she can get a break.
Somehow, despite that, her friend keeps going back and forth with her husband instead of ending things.
Her friend loves to complain about her lousy husband all the time and gets frustrated when she doesn’t complain about hers. Therefore, her friend has taken to insulting her marriage and her husband to try and get a rise out of her.
“Last weekend, she kept digging into things, calling him a cradle robber [and] insinuating that he was grooming and abusing me because I was so young when we met and because I’m disabled,” she recalled.
“But the last [straw] was her accusing him of cheating on me when he’s away from home.”
At that point, she lost it and told her friend that because her marriage sucks, it didn’t mean she was allowed to talk badly about hers in order to make herself feel better. She then told her friend that she should end her marriage instead of spending all her time complaining about it.
Since her outburst, her friend hasn’t been speaking to her.
Should she feel bad for what she said to her friend, or did her friend need to be told off?
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