His Girlfriend Insists He Should Spend $37,500 On Her Engagement Ring, And It’s Making Him Doubt Proposing To Her

Three years ago, this 27-year-old guy started dating his 30-year-old girlfriend, and they currently live in an area with a very high cost of living.
He makes great money, $150,000 a year plus $50,000 in bonuses, and he has a lot of money saved up too. His girlfriend makes $60,000 and has no money saved up.
Now, he grew up poor, so he’s really feeling pressured to spend a lot on a wedding and a home in the near future, which his parents won’t be able to help him with.
He and his girlfriend have discussed marriage extensively, and he’s ready to propose to her soon.
They also spent time talking about what kind of an engagement ring his girlfriend wants, including what kind of cut and style it should be.
They both knew nothing about diamonds prior to talking about engagement rings, so they had to do some research.
“She was aware that lab diamonds were much cheaper than mined diamonds and expressed that she was happy to go for that as it would mean she could get a much higher quality ring than otherwise,” he explained.
“We also went out to a few places to try different options on her finger, after which she decided on her dream ring. I never gave her a particular budget for the ring because I had done research on lab diamonds and knew that I could likely afford whatever she wanted.”
“She has a habit of not really looking at the prices of things, so I am quite certain at this stage she didn’t fully understand just how much cheaper lab diamonds were vs mined diamonds.”

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His girlfriend finally picked out the engagement ring she dreamed of, and so he purchased that exact ring as a surprise to her.
He ended up going with a lab-grown diamond that matches her exact specifications, and he spent around $6,500 on the ring for her.
But, over the course of the last couple of weeks, his girlfriend has been researching rings much more and also talking to her friends about how much her engagement ring should cost.
His girlfriend then decided that whatever ring he’s planning on purchasing for her will be far too cheap, even though she doesn’t know he did already go ahead and buy her a ring.
“She is now quoting the 3-month salary rule (i.e., for me, that means I need to be spending $37.5k on a ring),” he said
“I spoke with her on multiple occasions about how spending less on a ring means that we will have more money for the wedding itself/honeymoon and a house when we get around to purchasing one. However, as soon as she spends time with her friends, the topic comes up again, and we end up arguing.”
“What frustrates me about the situation is that she seems…bent on spending more money for the sake of spending money. The ring will be exactly like what she picked out and she was incredibly happy before she knew what the price was likely to be. This has been going on for a few weeks now, and honestly, I am starting to have doubts creep into my mind about whether I want to go ahead with the proposal if she is materialistic enough to place more importance on a ring than the strength of our relationship.”
He’s left wondering if he’s somehow in the wrong for not spending three months of his salary on her engagement ring.
What do you think?
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