She’s Sharing The Single Best Breakup Text You Can Send A Ghoster To Come Out On Top Looking Cool, Calm, Collected, And In Control
As someone who has been ghosted by guys before, guys who I never suspected would’ve cut me off out of the blue, I know how difficult it is to know what to do the moment you realize it’s happened.
When someone you were really into turns into a ghost and stops replying to your messages or maybe even goes as far as not showing up to date without a word, it can be devastating.
Other than sad, stressful, and infuriating, ghosting can also confuse you. Why? Because you don’t know how to respond to a ghost, and there are always people telling you the “wrong” and “right” way to react to being ghosted.
Some people will tell you to ignore it and not say anything; others will tell you to blow up their phones with angry texts, etc.
Thankfully, Charlotte (@welcometothepeasantparty), a hilarious TikTok creator who makes helpful dating content via slideshows, has shown her viewers the perfect single text message to send a ghoster that will leave you looking calm, cool, collected, and on top.
Charlotte W is a super funny creator and gives amazing, real, and blunt dating advice through her videos, which often contain slideshows full of diagrams and bullet points.
In one of her recent videos, Charlotte responded to a TikTok user who said “calling out” someone who ghosts you is a “waste of time.”
“I am anti-call out; I am pro-sending one message,” says Charlotte in her video. Charlotte then goes to her slideshow, where she explains there are two types of ghosting. One is straight-up ghosting, where a person stops communicating with you to end the relationship and avoid confrontation.
The other form is sometimes called “zombie-ing” or “submarining,” where someone will pause communication and only reach out to you when it’s convenient to them, as they don’t want the relationship to get serious when they’re not ready. Either way, both forms are selfish and major red flags.
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“I say none of this to get anyone excited because the fact that they might want the option to do this is not a good thing,” says Charlotte.
“Because if they come back, they will not be looking to give things an honest shot. They’re looking to set the tone for a casual situation at their convenience.”
Charlotte says to get the upper hand in these situations, keep your cool, and not fall into a vicious cycle with a ghost to send one specific text. She encourages her viewers to send a breakup text to end the problem before it gets worse.
Charlotte’s example text is rather vague and reminiscent of something you’d send someone you only went on a few dates with, but it gets the job done.
The text reads, “Hey, it’s been awesome getting to know you the last few weeks, but I’m not feeling a romantic connection, so I’m gonna walk away from this. The communication just feels sort of inconsistent, and I think we just don’t really vibe. Hope you find what you’re looking for!”
The text is simple and to the point. Charlotte also advises against using the words “ghosting,” calling them out on their actions or telling them off. You want to make it seem like they’re ghosting you didn’t affect you as much as it may have so that you come out on top.
“No matter how much ghosting hurts, the blow to your ego always sucks,” says Charlotte.
“It’s inevitable. Being the one to send this breakup text mitigates this by taking back the feeling of a loss of control due to ghosting and making you the owner of the decision.”
Additionally, Charlotte hopes that sending this kind of message after ghosting will help her viewers feel more confident to pick themselves up and get back out there.
Thank you, Charlotte, for a clear-cut and healthy answer on how we can respond to the jerks who ghost us. Happy texting, everyone!
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