I’m a firm believer that if someone does something horrible to you, you shouldn’t do anything kind for them. So, if your ex cheated and then ended up homeless with their resulting kid, would you feel the need to help them out of a bad situation?
This 28-year-old man and his 27-year-old ex have a five-year-old son together. His ex cheated on him, which ended their relationship.
His ex has a two-year-old son from the last time she ended up cheating on him, and her baby daddy has dumped this kid on her.
In fact, this guy is pretty much the reason why his ex and her youngest are currently homeless, or at least, that is what she’s told him.
“I have custody of our son while my ex has nowhere to go. She sees him a couple of times a week, and after five months of homelessness, there is no sign of things improving,” he explained.
“Throughout this whole thing, I have refused to engage in conversations about her situation, and I keep all discussion to our son and when she’s visiting.”
“She has asked me for help several times. She has cried when our son was out of the room and begged me to help her and her other son and to consider working on us so we could be a family. I was blunt with her the one time I responded, and I told her it was never going to happen.”
He knows he’s icy and harsh with his ex, and he has a valid reason: this girl cheated on him countless times, and he was clueless about it.
But he figured it all out at once, and then he discovered her pregnancy was the result of that. He was so upset that he had their son DNA tested, and he’s grateful this kid is his.
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His ex never showed remorse and mentioned her baby daddy was “a real man,” while insulting him and saying he led a dull life. So he has plenty of reasons to hate his ex.
“Turns out the real man cheated and gambled all through their relationship, and now she’s homeless with the child they made together, and she wants me to pick up the pieces,” he added.
“For our son’s sake, I play friendly when he’s in the room, but outside of that, I want nothing to do with her and her son. She doesn’t bring him to her visits with our son because she doesn’t want him to feel bad, because I won’t take him under my wing. But she has repeatedly asked me to help them.”
“I could afford to help her pay rent, and I even technically have space in my house for them to stay with me. But after everything she did, I don’t want to. And I don’t want her son to start looking at me as a father figure.”
He really wants nothing to do with his ex and her affair child. He also would not want his ex to think he’s her fallback plan, happy to be there for her when she needs bailouts.
A former mutual friend has voiced their opinion and said he has a connection with his ex for the remainder of his life due to their child.
This ex-friend believes he should be doing everything to help because it will somehow benefit his son, and he should want his son’s loved ones to have security.
“There were several other things they said, but the primary focus was I should help my ex find a way to provide a home for both children.”
“I don’t agree that it’s my job, but I can also understand my negative feelings for my ex might be clouding my judgment, so here I am.”
He’s left wondering if he should help his ex after all.
His ex deserves to live with the consequences of her painfully poor choices. And if his former friend is so hurt by his ex not having a roof over her head, they can help her out.
His ex is no longer his problem, nor is her affair child. It’s not his job to save his ex from herself. She can figure things out on her own.
His ex crying about wanting to be a family with him again is just manipulative and gross.
What do you think?
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