This 26-year-old woman is dating a 24-year-old man who has a six-year-old daughter. She loves her boyfriend’s child, but his baby mama is so rude that she’s no longer willing to hang in there with him.
She’s been with her boyfriend for nearly two years, and they started out as friends before the romantic sparks flew. In the beginning, her boyfriend and his baby mama had an agreement regarding how much money he would give her for their daughter, and they never took it to court.
He even gave her extra money for summer extracurricular activities. But lately, there have been many changes, and they’re not good, in her eyes.
For the whole duration of her relationship, her boyfriend’s baby mama has gone out of her way to make her life miserable. She won’t call her by her name and delights in riling her up.
She asked her boyfriend’s daughter what she wanted for Christmas, and she responded a new headset. She purchased one for her, and her boyfriend’s baby mama said she had to return it since she never gave her consent to buy a gift for her.
“It also hadn’t been helpful that his daughter has now started to say that she wants mommy & daddy back together, while I’m talking to her on FaceTime,” she explained.
“I understand she’s a kid and is processing how she feels, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt when she says it.”
Yesterday, her boyfriend was served papers regarding a hearing for child support. They both were blindsided, as, despite how much of a nightmare his baby mama has been, they were on good terms about the whole money thing.
But then her boyfriend revealed to her that a month before he got served, his baby mama demanded that he relinquish his rights as a parent.
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It’s fishy, for sure, but the bottom line is that her boyfriend’s baby mama is looking to get more money out of him, and she thinks it’s absurd.
“She also informed us that she’s moving in with her boyfriend of 6 months, and that the money monthly isn’t enough, even though it covers private school tuition, uniforms, food, etc., and no child care is needed since [the] family [watches] the child when both are working,” she continued.
“I don’t have any children, and don’t particularly want any in the future, so I assumed the money agreement was justified. Now this is about to be a long, dragged-out court battle, and I don’t want to stick around for it.”
“Maybe I’m a jerk for leaving during a hardship in his life, but it’s not my battle to fight, and I’m tired of my peace being disturbed all because I picked the wrong man.”
We all have our limits, and she’s hit hers. But she lost me at saying she never wanted kids, yet here she is dating a man who has one.
I think anyone who is childfree but with a parent is doomed to fail, because that means you’re fundamentally incompatible. Anyway, she already knew her boyfriend well before she decided to date him, so obviously she thought he was worth it; it’s a shame his witchy baby mama is coming in between them.
But maybe this is a way for her to exit with an excuse, and she’s actually coming to see that she really does not want to be involved with a man who has a child, and it doesn’t have that much to do with the baby mama at all.
What advice do you have for her?
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