Do you believe that your financial obligation to your spouse ends if your marriage does, unless, of course, a court says otherwise? Or do you think that it makes sense to give money to your ex to cover all of their living expenses, even when you are no longer together?
This woman got married to her husband a few years ago, and one thing that is driving her crazy about him is that he still gives his ex-wife financial support, and it’s not a small sum of money at all.
Her husband is not obligated to give his ex-wife any money for child support, as their children are all grown up and adults as of now, so that’s not why he’s giving this woman cash.
For more context, her husband was not required to give his ex-wife alimony after their divorce, so that’s not the reason he’s financially supporting her.
Her husband is literally giving his ex-wife money because he feels like paying for her; it’s not something a court has mandated, or he’s legally on the hook for in any way, shape, or form.
“She’ll have some administration tasks that are considered ‘work’ for my husband, but besides that, he ultimately pays for rent, her car, appointments, credit cards, trips, you name it,” she explained.
“It’s caused many arguments throughout our marriage, so he knows how I feel. Maybe I’m just being petty since she hasn’t always been the kindest to me.”
“Or maybe I get so annoyed that she makes it known that she was the ‘original’ wife whenever we’re around a group of people. Or maybe I just need someone to talk to [who] has been in this situation.”
She just doesn’t understand why her husband likes to pay for his unemployed ex-wife’s living expenses, and no, it’s not like he cheated and left his ex-wife for her, so it’s not stemming from guilt either.
This has to be one of the most bizarre things I have ever heard of, and I’m shocked she married her husband knowing he was financially supporting his ex-wife. That means she was already willing to accept his arrangement as normal, which it definitely is not.
It’s also so weird to me that her husband’s ex-wife isn’t nice to her, and he allows that to happen while footing all of the bills for this woman.
My only guess here is that her husband is still in love with his ex-wife and never got over her. Maybe he still wants to get back together with her.
I just can’t see another reason why her husband would be giving money to a woman he is no longer with.
What advice do you have for her?
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