She’s Obsessed With Her Boyfriend’s Ex-Girlfriend, And It’s Destroying Their Relationship
A 19-year-old woman is in a relationship with her 23-year-old boyfriend, and not that long into dating one another, they discussed their pasts and their exes.
During this discussion, her boyfriend told her about his most recent ex, and now she can’t stop being obsessed with her.
Her boyfriend originally met his ex through a hobby they both shared, and the story he told about his ex was pretty lengthy.
“He said she was incredibly beautiful as well as an amazing person, and that he was very appreciative of her because she helped him through a dark time in his life,” she explained.
“However, they were never an official couple because she had a “free spirit” and did not want to be in a serious relationship.”
The only reason her boyfriend is no longer dating his ex is that she was forced to return to the country she is from because of the pandemic.
“Now, I have never been jealous or given much thought to my partners’ past, however, I don’t know if it was the way he talked about her or the fact that “the only reason he can’t be with her is because of distance and her free spirit” but this just got into my head,” she said.
“For the following months, I felt insecure about this girl but decided not to say anything because I didn’t want to seem judgemental, jealous, or toxic.”
One day, she thought it would be a good idea to take a peek at her boyfriend’s texts to his ex, and when she did, she discovered that her boyfriend’s last text to his ex was sent around the time she started dating him.
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In the text, her boyfriend told his ex that he loved her. She confronted him about this, and he maintained that he said it in the same way that he would say he loves one of his friends.
Finding these texts between her boyfriend and his ex made her start to spiral. She spent nearly every waking moment envisioning the relationship her boyfriend had with his ex and the things they did together.
“It was so bad I felt like I was going crazy,” she added. For months, she just obsessed over her boyfriend with his ex, and then she found out that her boyfriend’s ex was still in contact with him.
She got to see the most recent messages between her boyfriend and his ex, which seemed innocent enough, but she wasn’t ok with it.
From there, she looked up her boyfriend’s ex on social media, only to find out that his ex had tons of videos and photos of him still up.
She just absolutely lost her nuggets over this one. Her boyfriend insisted that he was not trying to flirt with his ex at all, but she didn’t want to hear it.
She spent the remainder of that night wide awake, conflicted over if she could still be in a relationship with her boyfriend after knowing so much about his ex.
The following morning, she made it clear to her boyfriend that she was ending their relationship if he couldn’t prove to her that he wasn’t interested in his ex.
He wound up blocking his ex, and she did feel sad for “pushing him to do that.” Several days after all of this, she let her boyfriend unblock his ex.
Although she allowed this to happen, she kept obsessing over his ex and thinking about the two of them together.
One day ago, she saw that one of her boyfriend’s friends forwarded a video his ex made to him, and she lost it all over again.
“Honestly, I feel like this is going to end our relationship,” she continued. “I know he can’t change his past, but I don’t know if I can deal with it.”
“I don’t judge him for the things he did, but I can’t help and feel like he still wants (her) and he’s only with me because he can’t have her, even though he constantly reassures me that this is not the case.”
“I don’t know if it is jealousy, insecurity, distrust, because I have never felt something like this before. At the same time, I would feel so stupid to ruin my relationship only due to his ex and my insecurities about her.”
She’s wondering if her feelings are valid, or if she’s just behaving in a way that’s going to force the end of her relationship.
What do you think?
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