His Fiancée Quit Her Job And Refuses To Work, So He’s Wondering If This Means It’s Time To Call Off Their Engagement
A 30-year-old guy proposed to his 30-year-old fiancée a year ago, and they have been with one another for a little more than 4 years now.
Lately, he and his fiancée have been getting into a ton of disagreements that basically all boil down to one thing: money.
Money became the major issue in their relationship after he and his fiancée thought that if he could make a specific amount of money on one job, she could quit her job altogether.
“I started working two jobs as a temporary way to increase our savings, have money for a down payment on a house, and fund our wedding,” he explained.
“With working both jobs, I made well over the X amount, and she quit her job (which she made pretty good money at). I wanted her to stay because this was my first time working two jobs, and I didn’t know how it was going to work out, plus all the extra money we would be bringing in.”
“Since quitting her job, she has refused to go back to work because she “doesn’t want to,” and I have to continue to work two jobs in order to keep up our lifestyle, pay down some of the debts we have, plus try and save for the wedding/house.”
Several evenings ago, he and his fiancée got into a blowout fight about a house that his fiancée really wants him to buy right now.
He and his fiancée did go look at this house in person, and although they both thought it was great, he just doesn’t have the money needed for the down payment yet.
On top of that, he won’t be able to use any of his income until January 1st, 2023, due to tax purposes.
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He made it crystal clear to his fiancée that they cannot move houses until January 1st, but she won’t accept that as an answer.
Although this house will end up being cheaper month-to-month than what they pay in rent currently, the down payment is an enormous factor.
On top of all of this, his fiancée had no clue about the debt they have, and she thought they only owe about half of what they actually do.
This really was shocking to him, especially considering the fact that his fiancée completely and utterly refuses to go back to work.
“I enjoy her company, and our personalities click well with each other,” he said. “We love traveling and try to do it often. We enjoy specific theme parks and go probably too often. I’ve introduced her to countless movies, TV shows, and fandoms over the last 4 years. There is a lot of good in this relationship, but the financial troubles have always been there.”
“The hardest part is if we do break up, we are quite far from any of her family, she has no savings or anything to fall back on, and the majority of the items (specifically the one car for the both of us) are mine or in my name. The only option I see is that she sells her engagement ring (which I still owe on) she takes the money, gets a rental car and packs what items she can, and leaves.”
“I love this woman, but I’m stressed, unsure if I’m actually happy, and afraid of what will happen.”
He really is weighing whether or not to call off their engagement. Do you think he should?
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