She Canceled Christmas With Her Husband’s Family And Then Said Their Gifts Are Just Clutter Anyway, So They Think She’s A Villian
A 33-year-old woman has been with her 43-year-old husband for 9 years, and together they have a son who is 3.
Unfortunately, there’s no shortage of drama with her husband’s family, and it specifically revolves around her brother-in-law, sister-in-law, and mother-in-law.
Despite the drama, she has managed to stay on good enough terms with them all that it’s possible for her to coexist peacefully with them at family events.
But then, something happened with her brother-in-law, and she is no longer on speaking terms with him.
Things with him are so bad that she invited her husband’s entire family to spend Christmas with them, but she excluded her brother-in-law from the plans.
You see, a year ago, her brother-in-law moved in with her and her husband when he was going through a divorce from his wife.
Initially, everything went well with him under their roof, but one day, he had a violent outburst and damaged her and her husband’s property before shoving her husband down a flight of stairs.
Her in-laws insisted that her brother-in-law deserved another chance, but she told her brother-in-law the only way he would get another chance would be to relinquish the guns he owned while living with them.
She was concerned that because of his instability, he might end up harming them. Her brother-in-law wasn’t happy to agree to her terms, but he did.
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“On New Year’s Eve, he ended up having another outburst where he threw glasses and bottles and a crystal platter at my husband, gashing his head open,” she explained.
“He then went up to his room, came back down with a gun we didn’t know he had, and threatened my husband with it. To my terror, my husband bleeding profusely from his head, ‘called his bluff’ and said, “what are you going to shoot me? Just shoot me, then?” BIL ran up the driveway, standing about 5 feet from me, held the gun to his own temple, and then simultaneously screamed, pulled down the gun, firing 3 shots into the ground. He fled. The police stormtroopered through my whole house, including the nursery.”
Wow. So since then, she has completely cut all contact with her brother-in-law and encouraged her husband to do the same until he agrees to get some kind of treatment or help.
She’s open to allowing him back into their lives, but he has to show progress, and he has not.
This leads us back to Christmas this year; her husband’s family is upset that she won’t allow her brother-in-law to come to her house.
The thing is, though, her in-laws spend a ton of time with her brother-in-law, so she can’t see why they can’t just come to Christmas without him.
“They said they would only stop by to exchange presents and leave,” she said. “This made me angry, so I told them if they don’t want to visit with us then to forget the whole thing because presents aren’t what it’s about, gifts are just clutter. Now I’m being cast as the villain for canceling Christmas.”
She’s left wondering if it was wrong of her to cancel Christmas with her in-laws over this. What do you think?
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