She Found Out Her Stepson Didn’t Want Her At His Wedding, So She Decided To Skip It, And Now Her Husband’s Family Is Furious
This woman has been married to her husband for twenty-five years now. But, before they tied the knot, her husband had two kids during a previous marriage who are now her stepchildren– Kai, who is twenty-eight, and Mia, who is twenty-seven.
And honestly, the story behind her husband’s failing first marriage is pretty upsetting. Apparently, her husband’s marriage fell apart after his ex-wife moved another man into their home while already pregnant with Mia.
“She [her husband’s ex] told my husband to leave and that she was planning to marry the other guy,” she recalled. Yikes.
So, a DNA test was conducted on Mia after she was born, as well as Kai. Both children were confirmed to be her husband’s, though, and custody agreements, as well as the divorce, was then finalized.
She ended up meeting her husband just six months after all of that chaos. However, they really hit it off and actually got married after being together for only one year.
Their love story was not one without its challenges, though, because her husband’s ex-wife still made their lives a living hell. According to her, the ex alienated her stepchildren from her, which resulted in a lot of turmoil.
“We were in and out of court; they [her husband and his ex] were always placed in mediation and co-parenting classes to try and get them to a better place. But nothing helped,” she recalled.
In fact, her husband’s ex’s second husband actually just ended up leaving– which only made matters worse. Plus, her husband’s ex ended up getting married a third time, another relationship that ended up crashing and burning.
So now, her resulting relationship with her stepchildren honestly just breaks her heart. She claims that she truly loves Kai and Mia and has always tried to be respectful of their boundaries.
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For instance, she refrained from speaking badly about their mother, never wanted to overstep, and tried not to assume that they would love her the same as they loved their biological parents.
Despite hoping they would grow close, though, her stepchildren have reportedly just been rude, distant, and cold to her over the years.
According to her, she still loved them regardless– but her husband took the parenting lead with them.
So, by the time she and her husband had two children of their own together, it did not really go over well.
Kai and Mia apparently never bonded with them– even though she continued to hold onto hope that time and therapy would allow some sort of relationship to blossom.
Now, though, Kai is engaged to be married– and the guest list has caused her some serious upset. She recently learned from her husband that Kai would not be inviting her two biological children since the event would be child-free.
On top of that, though, she also was expected to abide by many more of her stepson’s wedding rules.
“Kai told me what I could not wear because the two mothers were going to match the theme, and I am not counted in that, and that I would not be given a corsage to wear so people would know I was not one of the parents,” she explained.
Additionally, her stepson said she would not be mentioned in any of the toasts and that she was not allowed to give a toast of her own.
Finally, Kai explicitly stated that any photos of the parents and immediate family would not include her.
And after hearing all of that, her husband was understandably confused and asked why Kai was going through so much effort to make sure she had no involvement in the day. Then, the truth came out once and for all.
Apparently, Kai claimed that he wanted her to “know her place” before finally admitting that he actually did not even want her there at all.
So, she was understandably heartbroken and actually just decided not to attend the wedding. Instead, she opted to just stay home with her children.
“I have reached a breaking point where I just no longer see a future where we might get along better, and clearly, I am not wanted at all,” she vented.
Now, though, her husband’s family is furious at her for refusing to attend– claiming that since she was technically invited, she should be there. In turn, she has been left wondering if skipping her stepson’s wedding after learning he honestly does not want her there would actually make her a jerk or not.
Why do you think her stepchildren want nothing to do with her? If you found out your stepchild did not want you at their wedding, would you still go? How do you suggest she deals with this situation?
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