She Accused Her Friend Of Pushing People Away By Only Ever Talking About Her Kid
This 20-year-old woman has a 23-year-old friend named Ann, who wound up getting pregnant after a one-night stand.
And unfortunately, the father of Ann’s baby did not want to be involved. So, her friend has been a single mother ever since.
Ann’s daughter, Kate, is now 2-years-old. And she claims to adore babysitting the little toddler.
“But she is all Ann cares about now,” she said.
Apparently, Ann often cancels meet-ups with friends because of Kate. And while she understands that things come up sometimes, she thinks her friend does it way too much.
Plus, Ann always provides reasons for canceling that she doesn’t really think are valid. For instance, “Kate is being really clingy today,” or, “Kate really wants to visit the zoo.”
Then, even during the hangouts her friend does show up to, Ann reportedly only ever talks about her daughter.
In fact, she claimed that Ann is constantly showing her a ton of pictures and discussing Kate’s sleeping habits, eating habits, diaper content, favorite songs, and all of that.
So, even though she is interested in hearing about Kate, she feels like if she does not stop her friend Ann, then Ann will drone on for hours.
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“And even if I try to change subjects, the topic of Kate comes up again and again,” she explained.
She still refrained from saying anything to her friend about this, though. Well, that was until she babysat Kate last week, and some of Ann’s comments ultimately pushed her over the edge.
It all began after she finished babysitting and Ann came home to put Kate to bed. Then, once her friend was finished putting the toddler down, she and Ann got to talking, and the topic of being a single mother came up.
At that point, Ann started telling her about how hard it is to be a single parent. Her friend also revealed how she can feel really isolated from her peers.
Now, she claimed that she tried to be empathetic. After all, she realizes how being a young single parent is definitely challenging.
But then, Ann reportedly started making comments about how people “show their true colors.” Then, Ann actually listed a few of their friends who she claimed had been distant before calling them “fake friends.”
And honestly, she did not really like how Ann was talking about the rest of their group. So, she tried to provide some clarity.
She explained how most of the friends on Ann’s list were child-free and suggested that perhaps discussing Kate just made them all uncomfortable.
Her point did not really get through to Ann, though, and her friend just dismissed her suggestion. Then, Ann apparently said that if those people were really true friends, then they would love Kate just as much as she does.
But she still did not agree with that either, and she ended up saying something that really upset Ann.
“I told her that she is having unrealistic expectations and that just because her world revolves around Kate, it doesn’t mean that everybody else’s does, too,” she recalled.
After she made that comment, though, she got accused of shaming her friend for being a single mother.
And unfortunately, though, the drama did not stop there. She claimed that she tried to reiterate her comment– pointing out how not everyone cares about Kate the same way and how Ann constantly talking about Kate can get exhausting.
So, that was the icing on the cake for Ann– who just got really angry at her and told her to leave. She did leave after her friend asked her to, and she just went home afterward. But then, the following morning, she woke up to a ton of angry messages from her friends.
Apparently, they told her that since Ann is a struggling mom, she should have shown her a lot more support. While she does feel bad about how she phrased her point to Ann, though, she still doesn’t believe she was wrong for being honest.
“I do understand that Kate is a very big part of Ann’s life and that she wants to talk about her. But I think there is a healthy limit to that,” she vented.
Regardless, with Ann and the rest of her friends angry at her, she has still been left wondering whether telling Ann that she is losing friends because her world revolves around Kate makes her a real jerk or not.
Do you think Ann should be able to talk about Kate wherever and whenever? Or do you think Ann is really pushing away friends by only focusing on one topic of conversation? Did she have a right to be honest with her friend? Was she too harsh? What would you have done?
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