She Finally Wants To Leave Her Husband Because She’s Financially Supported Him Throughout Their Entire Marriage
When this 27-year-old woman was just 20, she got married to her husband, who is now 32. But, she claimed that her husband is the kind of person who needs to be told when to do anything and everything– including finding a job and going to work.
Ever since they started going out, he has apparently struggled to hold down a job. So, after they started dating when she was 19, she began footing the majority of their bills.
Then, not long after their relationship began, her now-husband broke his leg and was forced to recover at home.
At the same time, he received a settlement from his old company and proceeded to not work. Instead, he just stayed at home, got intoxicated, and lived off of the settlement funds for nearly a year.
She, on the other hand, was forced to work at a fast food restaurant across town– commuting two hours each way on the bus every day.
“We were homeless once, living in a tent in the woods, and I was still able to work and save up for us to find a place to live,” she revealed.
“He didn’t work almost the whole time, and when he did, he got fired.”
Aside from working like a dog, she has made countless other sacrifices for their marriage, too, such as selling her car and other personal belongings just to pay their bills.
Nonetheless, it always seemed like her husband did everything he could to hold onto his material possessions rather than help support their livelihood.
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Nowadays her husband has since gotten a part-time job. But it’s not enough, and she has been begging him to find a different job so they can finally split their expenses.
She currently makes approximately $3,000 every month, and she was finally able to pay off all of her debt and save up about a month’s worth of bills as a “cushion.”
Still, she is covering practically everything for both herself and her husband. She pays most, if not all, of their standard bills. She also pays for their groceries.
And while her husband does give her whatever funds he can after he gets paid, she claims that his contributions barely even make a dent in the bills.
“It feels like every year we sit down and have a huge talk where I beg him to help me. At least with housework, but I have to nag him constantly to do that, too,” she explained.
“Things never change, and I’m starting to feel like an idiot.”
Her husband’s smoking habits have really limited his job options in their town if he ever wants to get out of the retail industry, which he reportedly does. But he just refuses to stop.
She has also asked her husband to at least give therapy a try. However, even though he agrees, he never even attempts to schedule an appointment.
So, unless she literally sends in job applications for her husband or schedules all of his appointments, he will not do anything to help himself out and better his own personal situation.
“And I’ve worked really hard this past year, and I’m starting to think maybe it’s time to bail,” she admitted.
She does really love her husband, and aside from their financial struggles, she thinks he is really sweet. She also knows that if she just ignored all of their problems, then she could be very happy in their relationship.
Plus, she feels guilty about even considering leaving because, if she does, she knows he will end up homeless.
Still, she feels like they have been fighting more and more lately over their financial inequity. She has also started to harbor resentment, and it is bleeding into other areas of their relationship.
That’s why she’s now starting to wonder whether it would be okay to leave her marriage simply because her husband has never stepped up to the plate and been an equal partner.
“I think of my future, and I don’t know if this is something I can keep doing forever,” she vented.
Can you imagine staying in a one-sided relationship like this for as long as she did? Does she have every right to leave if her husband is not pulling his own weight? What would you do in this situation?
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